Girlfriend fucking with my head
 

Cant think of a profound eyecatching title so, fuck it.

I now have a girlfriend and she is seriously fucking with my head. I remember watching a vid with lovedrop, who was saying, girls are looking for a guy with all the girls and not someone who its really important to them that they have you as their girlfriend.

Pickup got me this girl, smile on my face , high energy. But now i cant get her out of my head. Shes become way too important to me and im afraid this side of me will lose her. Jealousy, obsession, i like this girl alot! But i gotta get her out of my head. If i dont im not gonna be the fun, cool energy guy. Im gonna be the psycho obsessed guy.

Anyone else have these problems?

in a word, no

People put all sorts of shite in videos. But I think you mean "don't come across as needy". I'd second that.

But as for video man not stating that "[girls do not want] someone who its really important to them that they have you as their girlfriend"", well that's bullshit. If this girl is awesome and genuine GF material then treat her in an awesome way, and that respect and trust you may well get back.

- However, sounds like you don't trust her

- .....does she ever behave in a way which may make u not trust her?

- .....or is it all you?

Or, what could SHE do regularly to put your mind more at rest?

Rebus

Don't idealise her. Trust me, she is FAR from perfect! Women are NOT that special. They have MANY faults. Once you get that into your head, you will have much more power in your relationships.

I used to be like you, then one day it just clicked. It would take much more than a woman to break me! The fact that I don't fall in love easily at all drives them crazy too. If I am in a LTR my gf will be bending over backwards to try and win my heart.

I don't mean be an ice man, by the way. I just mean, feed her little bits of your heart at a time as rewards for her good behaviour. Don't just give her the whole damn thing on a plate.

I dont know mate she says shes crazy about me i mean theres not alot she could do to make me feel more at ease. Infact the more serious this gets the more uneasy i feel. I feel its just a natural jealous rection because my feelings are getting stronger for her, im becoming more protective.

As for does she ever behave in a way that makes me not trust her? Maybe, we were at this house party the other day and the way she was looking at and interacting with this guy was making me super jealous. I had to leave the room to get my head together.

I used to be jealous with my ex. She had a few orbiters and that pissed me off. This guy tried to kiss her at a party in front of me too and I sparked him out, bringing the party to a standstill.

She never loved me any less for it though. A little bit of jealousy is a healthy thing; it shows that you care. Too much of it, however, is dangerous. It's the number one reason murders are committed.

Men are jealous because we want to be sure that the baby is ours. Women are jealous because they don't want us to run off and feather other nests. It's a natural instinct that is there for a very good reason. Just don't let it get out of hand.

If she loves you and you love her then this could be the beginning of a very beautiful thing. Just try to relax.

Midas, im trying mate.

OK, so there's something where it could be -- you have the wrong impression of her, her behaviour could be totally innocent and you really are whack and don't get it, or her behaviour was inappropriate and unintentional, or (worst!) her behaviour was inappropriate and intentional

so guess what... talk to her

but this comes with the warning that... don't open your heart up and go crazy, just keep it simple to be constrained on focussing on understanding each other, discuss the party thing with her. A single specific thing to talk about; she can generalise if she wants to. Best not to freak her out by turning several specific things and vague feelings into a general "I don't trust you" statement as that's way too dangerous. Mark of a paranoid!

PS -- paranoia will destroy ya. Paranoia is increased by lack of sleep. Get more sleep.

I highly recommend disc five of RSD The Blueprint decoded which explains what love is and how it can be controlled. The whole course is fantastic, but this is especially specific to your situation right now. Check your PM.

Right, great advice. I can't seem to bring myself to bring up that party situation without sounding needy, jealous and insecure. Are you saying its ok to be jealous? And to show that jealousy? I've always thought it was a bad thing to be jealous; you should always be the laid back, chilled, no big deal guy.

Cheers for the link midas but i cant download it cuz im shit at torrents