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When the shit goblins attack?

K and top-hat described having peaks and troughs in terms of moods on top-hats journal thread and it made me think - what do others do when things are shit?

I know K mentioned ~~being away from friends and family where it isn't his first language~~ having stinking moods and top-hat being back with parents and hitting rock bottom with approach anxiety. For me I have times when I feel shit too.

So what do you guys do to turn that frown upside down?

For me, I have a few things that really help me;
1. Weight workout - I find it incredibly easy to be mindful (more than other activities, less than meditating) when lifting weights to the point I am just there in
2. Cooking/eating - It's fun to get caught up with different flavours, desserts, sandwiches, grills or soup
3. Mock the Week - Living abroad with a different culture/language it helps to make me feel at home and grounded plus it makes me laugh
4. Ukulele - I can learn a song that I like, a song for somebody else, or just jam with songs that reflect me mood and help me express myself.
5. Savour feeling shit - sometimes it's good to feel shit, if everything was smiles and rainbows I guess life would be boring and so would I

I got low a couple of weeks ago, I knew it would be temporary though.
1. I re-joined a gym and did intense cardio. (For me it's probably the most important thing to keep positive).
2. Sleeping for at least 8 hours a night.
3. Day-game - As contrived as it sounds I've found the act of going out after work to talk to girls is a massive help. I've had one of the best years of my life because of this. Probably 2nd most important.
4. AirBnB guests - just chatting to them
5. Eat a nice steak
6. Do yoga.
7. Avoid booze, it sends me down.
8. A trip away on my mountain bike to Wales 8]

1. Gym at least 3 times a week
2. 30 mins meditation before bed (even driving with zero music has a similar effect but is obviously no fun :)
3. A good nights sleep
4. A night out with good friends
5. Daily regular interactions with people, work colleagues/housemates/whatever
6. Reduced evening 'screen' time, ie, less Facebook zoning out while watching a TV programme you don't care about

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Originally Posted by kowalski (Post 96823)

I apologize K, I mispoke/quoted.

Thanks for your feedback tho

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Originally Posted by kowalski (Post 96823)

Hang on a minute!

I did mention being away from friends and family and not being fluent, but that isn't the cause of my bad times. To re-list what actually happened - my girl left, someone stole a significant sum of money and a neighbour has a vendetta against me (which also includes stealing my post, egging my door, etc., it's a real ballache). Top-hat (obviously by mistake) said they were all my choices (except the neighbour), but they definitely weren't.

Being away from support and not being able to express myself fluently on certain topics aren't causes of my bad times. I mentioned them as they are factors relative to how you recover from bad times, how you put yourself back in a good mood. That without them around what do you do?

And, for me, the most common thing I do is go outside and talk to someone. Generally, I find the immediacy of certain activities leaves no room for another me. Chatting to someone is a good example. The first time something upset me just minutes before a guest arrived I thought I'd be a mess... how could I welcome them to my home like this? But the doorbell rang triggering me, much like Pavlov's tortured dogs, to fetch my keys and forget whatever I was thinking about before. Table tennis, the ball travels too fast. Also, I couldn't mourn the recent, horrific deaths of everyone I'd ever loved and play table tennis simultaneously, or whichever sport that requires near constant engagement.

Peace,

kowalski

Apologies. My bad. What I meant was more living arrangements. You've chosen to go out to Spain.

I like this thread though. The idea is right

good thread
short term fixes - gym (#1), meditation, stuff in diary(huge), mix up routine, friends, lay (obviously)
long term - self development/mental attitude (huge)

I sometimes go out for a good blast in my car, there's a long stretch of country road near me that's good for a thrash.

Watch something funny or comedy related or something on TV you enjoy.

Go out for a casual chilled out walk, usually down by the beach, looking out at sea or watching the waves crashing back and fourth is quite releaxing.

Number 1 thing for me would be music - stick on some of your favourite tunes. I get totally into it & sing my absolute lungs out & probably get lost/carried away with it - but it serves a purpose i that it uplifts me & helps clear any negative feelings, by the time I'm finished singing like a twat those feelings have dispersed & i don't feel so bad about whatever it was.

I've tried meditation when I'm really, really in a shit mood, but admittedly when the red mist or storm clouds are over head I just can't concentrate enough & clear my mind for it.