Hi all

I introduced myself as 'Doxy' a month or 2 back and posted exactly once. I was unsure whether I was committed to this pickup thing, and I've been thinking it over.

A little more sure now, but I had to get a new username. 'Doxy' is an in-joke between me and my brothers, and it doesn't have the right associations.
So I thought I'd enlist the help of the peerless David Bowie, despite the fact that he didn't reply last year when I invited him to a gig I was fronting!

As I said when I introduced myself before:

I'm in my 30's, I live in Greenwich. Occupation / hobbies: These sort of blur for me. I trained as a doctor but I only work very part time now as a prison doctor. The rest of the time I'm a guitarist / writer / composer / musical director (IE I get bands together for small theatre shows).

I'm really enthusiastic about wanting to improve my confidence and authority, but I've been amazed how difficult I find it. I took Neil Strauss's advice to make a passing casual comment to 5 strangers in the street. Took me about 3 hours of pacing the pavement! I'm an introvert and a very private person and I realise how much effort I've put in over the years to making myself unobtrusive, never standing out from the crowd, using body language to discourage anyone from sitting near me on the train etc etc.

(Even now I hesitated to list my hobbies, for fear that I sounded immodest! This is the sort of thing I have to get over.)

In my positions of authority in the surgery or in the theatre it's different: I'm in my comfort zone, I know the rules, I can be very confident and authoritative. I just need to learn to transfer those attitudes into my social interactions.

Anyway, are any of you in your 30s? I get the sense you're mostly early 20s.

Talk to you soon
Duke

Great post, and good luck

I'm in my 30s as well, and it's no time like the present to start the road to fun and games

welcome thin white duke!

I'm definitely in my 30s! And much better all around than earlier in my life. The ladies seem to like experienced men, anyway, so no worries there! ;-)

Hi all. Thanks for the welcome.