Hello,

My name is The Real AFC.

And I am an Average frustrated chump.

Lately I have seen a cycle of self sabotage causing me to lose out on opportunities that have been practically handed to me.

The sad thing is that, this really has been the story of my life.

A girl l was seeing and hoping to eventually have sex with completely blocked me out because I was being too pushy. The Ironic thing is that I know what it is that I am meant to be doing, but I am ruled by my emotions at times and in this case, it lead to me missing out on what would have been a golden opportunity.

I have essentially reached a point were I can't keep having these opportunities slip by. Which is why I am here. I want help turning the tide of my frustration into a more rewarding experience.

Thank you and I hope to learn from you guys soon.

Regard.
The Real AFC

Where you living?

I'm based in Hertfordshire

Can't seem to create a new thread on this damn thing so I'm going to get right into it.

Two days ago I met this Spanish girl. We chatted for a bit, I found out she moved here a few months ago and will be staying till some time in the summer. She's learning English and is living with a family while looking after their kids. We carried on talking, I got her number and I wound up showing her how to complete an English paper she was writing (I made her work for it). Immediately afterwards, I left, intending to call/text her later.

Last night I started texting her with the intent to get her over for a movie. She then tells me she's sorry she for forgot to tell me, but she's got a boyfriend. Here's how the text reads:

Me: Did you finish the rest of those questions?
Her:Yes thanks
Me: That will be £500 for the tutoring sessions
Her: Lol
Me: I'm serious, I don't teach for free.
Her: Okay okay, I wont disturb you more next day XD
Me: How about this instead. What are you doing tomorrow evening.
Her: Mmmm sorry I didn't tell you yesterday but I have a boyfriend. You are very kind but maybe you have the wrong idea sorry. I didn't want to be rude yesterday.
Me: Your boyfriend doesn't know does he?
Her: Eh no
Me: I don't see a problem. Do you see a problem?
Her: mmmmmm Its not a problem but....
Me: All I'm offering is a good time, good company and a good movie (in English, none of that Spanish crap
Her: But probably my boyfriend doesn't like that. And he's not in Spain. He lives her as well and he is English too.
Me: What he doesn't know wont kill him
Her: lol
Me: It'll be our own little secret
Her: Eh no thanks. I'm okay
Me: Suit yourself
Her: ????

The impression I get from this series of text is that her only objection to any kind of encounter is the fact that her boyfriend lives locally. And with her time here short, I doubt she plans on staying committed to anything. As far as I'm concerned, she's up for grabs.

What I would like to know is, what did I do wrong, what I did right, how I can improve, and what can I do next.

Lets get me laid.

Basically, you were trying to convince her logically to go on date with you.(change her mood , not her thinking) Women are emotional. And secondly, it really feels that you need something from her ( neediness ). It probably even happenned when u met her for the first time.

Thanks, Tim!