Hi all, I'm 24 and from Surrey.

Recently became single and went out for a night out in Bristol, a hundred odd miles away from my hometown.

The sorts of questions I used to open conversations were completely genuine:

Where's good to go out here?
When does this place close? etc.

... and the response was like nothing I've experienced before - incredible.

However, I tend to go out in my hometown. I know damn well where is good to go out, what time this place closes and where we should go next. I guess I don't feel comfortable (or at least confident) making up an elaborate story for an excuse to talk to a girl.

Do you guys have any natural sounding openers like the above that tend to work?

Could try:

- "What are you guys celebrating this evening?"
- Making observations about drink/surroundings/patrons

... but to me they all sound a bit... forced compared to the genuine tourist I was last week! Any ideas?

"Hi I'm pickuptruck, who are you?"

"I'd like to extend to you an invitation to the pants party"

60% of the time, it works every time

I don't understand why you feel you need to make an excuse to talk to a girl. It's a club, people chat random, useless shit all the time to anyone they want.

From my brief warp into the club scene, I noticed that it's less of what you say and more of what you do. Talking is easy, fun..fine but I feel that the physical aspect is more important.

I like some of RSD Ryan's texting stuff, when it comes to approaching randomly in the club. I'd be at the bar getting a drink and I'd look to me left/right, see a girl I like and eye contact, look her up and down and then just say something like "I heart you" or some totally random comment, complimenting her in some way with no need of a response, just value giving. Then walk away.

I then would re-initiate contact whenever I want. I did this a few nights ago when I went out for a mates birthday, did it to about 10-15 girls within the first hour of been there. Was then enjoying myself with friends and some girls I'd initiated contact with came over in order to introduce themselves, other girls were making eye contact and such.

I was making considerable eye contact with some girl so when she started looking at me again, I immediately started to walk over to her, with her facing me and in that moment I decided I would try to be purely physical. I did stuff like, stroke her cheek, then when she started speaking, I put my finger on her lips, then took her hand and brought her closer, making her twist 90 degrees at the same time, to which she kinda fell backwards into me, then went into a neck kiss kinda stance but instead of kissing, I decided to speak and say something on the lines of "what's your name?". I know I should have stayed with the tension. Also her friend then came over, so I had to start talking but made a considerable leap into being more physical during approaches..

Then when you get the number, you can say whatever, but I tend to go for the same as the approach I did, so for the approach I gave an example of earlier, I would text "I still heart you" sometimes with a photo-shopped picture. That's what I did with the girl I did the physical approach on.

Welcome to the forum mate.

I like observational openers but if nothing comes to mind I'm starting to just assume rapport. In other words you just open as you would with someone you already know ("Hi how's things?", "How's it going?", etc). Also assume attraction... in other words they don't care what you're opener is they're just glad you've approached. For this to work best you need to be confident and approach from the front so they can see you coming.

I should also say eye contact is very important. Get eye contact on the approach if you can and keep it strong at the open. This and your body language is doing a lot of the work for you. The actual words you say aren't so important. As Barney said in can something totally random.

You should write a routine involving all the pua jargon.

Possibly not what you had in mind Shah, found it kinda funny to write though.

"Hey I'm Barry White, my teeth are c-shaped, your's are u-shaped.. and yellow. I like those nails, are they fake? I'm going back to your place tonight, quick question, jumpers or sweaters....ermmm... let me give you a cold card reading. Wow I like your face and smile, did you just get botox right in front of me or something? Do you know Style?... how about Mystery? Hmmm, let's go to the toilets and fuck.... no, or well, how about the number instead. No, okay then cool. Fuck you lat...err I meant see you later"

(Guy's I talked to a GIRL and she totally want's to fuck me, though she totally denied it. I got her number and everything!)

Haha yeah like that. I actually had a point but the more I type it out the less I think I have a point hmmmm haha