Hi,
i am spagbol1989. i joined this forum because i have never been on a date before, i have never really even come close. i thought i would try to change things. currently, i am doing a masters in sheffield.

i am half-white and half-asian. i am half-british. i didn't grow up in uk, i lived here and there, before my family settled back in uk when i began my undergrad. i did very well academically in school, and i was very athletic, but i went to small schools where teachers looked after me. i have a lot of problems with shyness, i can't make eye-contact with people, even though i did well in school i had no friends, i was a loner, and girls always rejected me. beginning my undergrad was tough, i had no friends again, i felt so lonely, i fell into a depression and put on a lot of weight- i am not very obese. after graduating, i was doing this and that, before beginning my masters this year. unfortunately depression is still with me, but i am coping well with the academics.

right now i am quite insecure about my weight. the other thing is, as mentioned i am bi-racial. i hope it is ok for me to say this, if i make a mistake in saying it forgive me- but i have always on the physical been mainly attracted to white girls. of course, for love, you try to look past the physical and find a deeper connection. but it would be great to meet some white girls. my friends in university are mainly the male asian international students- who i love, they are great, but as a result i don't know many white girls. i am happy to date other ethnicities, but i have mainly been physically attracted to white girls and it would be great to have an experience with them.

so, i guess i joined this forum to improve my social skills, learn ways- i don't know, i want to just talk to girls on the street, around the university, but i can't do it. i have read mystery method, and neil strauss' 'the game', both great books, i haven't put them into practice. i don't really want to bring women to bed- but if i can achieve 4-5 dates with 4-5 women i am physically attracted too by the end of the year, i would be thrilled!

so that is my story, apologies if i have written too long. i look forward to reading all your posts etc., and to join your community, thank you for having me

Welcome dude!

Good luck achieving all you want to achieve with women. Keep us posted on how you get on!

GoodRebel

Welcome to the forum mate, and nobodies going to judge you for your preference its an open forum as long as your respectful etc etc.

Funny thing about appearance, everybody is really self conscious about how they look (myself included) that it actually effects how you come across. Your only as attractive as you feel, if you feel awesome it doesn't matter how you look. That being said, self improvement is a massive confidence booster, one of my favourite phrases...
'If you don't like where you're at then move, you're not a tree'

Keep posting and keep active, its great to see progress of people on here.

If youre in Sheffield you can come to Manchester for a night out.

Why do you not want to 'bed' these women and only date them?

Sort of seems like racing for Bronze...