So I've met this girl through work. Don't worry I work in a big place and there's a lot of people.

Last few weeks we've been slowly hitting it off more and more, been out on a date, all the usual bits, she's texting me like crazy, showing all the signs she's interested.. Said she finds me attractive etc.

So last weekend we end up going out and getting drunk together. Just so happens I get a bus from her stop, so we're there, drunk, i'm on form chatting shit and making her laugh and shes just got her arms around me full frontal for like 10 minutes... signs are good!

So when her bus gets in, I go in for the kiss and she kisses back, but kinda quickly pulls away and goes to get on her bus. I'm left not quite knowing what to think of it..

So she texts me the next day saying 'why did you try and kiss me last night?'...

Oh fuck

Did i really fall into the friend zone and I've read the past two weeks of insane amounts of flirting completely wrong? Nah, couldn't have...?

Later she admits she may have wanted something to happen but she's confused right now, not been out of a long term relationship, blah blah, etc etc... I've basically said I wasn't looking for anything serious...

She's quite a stunner.. I may be a little more than just attracted to her body, but would like to hear if anyone has any advice on how to deal with this one!

Tell her straight that she was flirting with you, and you want her. Tell her you're not sure where anything may go, and don't like rushing into anything, but you like/love the time spent with her (not that you lover her). See how she responds, and act accordingly. Take it as far as you want. Just don't break her. Build her up, even if it's only for one night.

She's just confused about what she wants, but knows she doesn't want to be hurt again. Make her feel like you're not going to do that to her. May already be too late depending on how you said you weren't looking for anything serious...

You've gotta question how much she's worth all of this. Lately I'm really against the player mentality, outside of the purpose of learning to get better with women.

If you're constantly going from girl to girl, you're missing something... just like opening a dozen women a night isn't anything to be proud of in the long run.

Stop chasing her full-stop

the more you try, text, blah blah blah I guarantee the more she'll pull away.

Just tell her, no worries it's cool, have your time etc. and go on with your life, go out with your friends and chat up other girls but dont supplicate to her telling her that you're there for her and all that trash.

The reason she isnt sure is because she has just got out of a relationship, probably with a guy just like you. She isnt going to want to jump back into the same thing again.

Be different, be fun, but most of all be a little elusive, dont chase her, let her make a move then play it down, if she wants to meet up, dont jump at it, be manly and make it on your terms your place your activity etc.

But mostly just live your life and stop thinking about her, then she'll come to you...

She's 100% in charge. You've allowed this to happen. She's led you on in a bid to gain validation from you in order to make her feel better about herself (during a break up) you've given up that validation and allowed yourself to be her emotional tampon without insisting on anything from her in return.

So, Now she basically assumes that you are there WAITING for her to grace you with her 'divine prescence', the notion that YOU might not be interested in HER or that SHE still has alot to prove to YOU (in terms of gaining your affection/attention etc) is something that doesn't even factor into the fucked up entitled ' little princess' processing that your actions have encouraged.

She thinks she's got you and is pretty much throwing you away. With a half baked excuse about being 'confused'.

So call her bluff and fuck off. Get a few other girls on the go. Make sure she knows about it (if you care). As soon as you cease to be just 'there' as soon as she sees that you aren't a sure thing she'll re group suddenlly not be 'confused' any more and then bring out the big guns in a bid to make you spring a boner for her so she can get you back under her control, where she thinks you belong...resist. Either by sucking it up or by genuinely having better things to do than play her game.

Just walk. This might get a reaction out of her it might not, but until she ceases to behave like an arrogant entitled fool you shouldn't be giving a rat's ass what she says or thinks.

You are the man. Don't ever let anybody tell you any different.

Awesome advice!

txting like crazy..... gay

if you want her as a girlfriend or just somone to do rude things too, make your intentions clear, bascially i wouldnt txt somone like crazy no matter what but i certainly wouldnt txt somone a lot if i wasnt interested in them-- if i was interested i would make it clear that i like them just be concerned with what YOU want not what she wants or needs etc

her: why did you kiss me?
you: because i wanted to
you: because i fancy you

blah blah somthing like that

whats so bloody hard about it? why does it have to be a game? who gives a shit about a game
just do what you want and you wont go wrong