Hi lads,

Some of you may remember me from the forum, others may not have a scooby doo who I am, anyway im at a new point in my life and seeking guidance... and I guess you can say my story is kinda different to your average guy who posts on here, anyway i'll shortly summarise to give you guys some insight.

- raised my whole life in a village full of elderly and farmers (essentially living a sheltered childhood, lived my teenage years playing video games)
- ) at 17 got my first ever relationship and sexual partner (local girl)
- dumped local girl because I was going to uni
- moved to uni and discovered 'the game' in my first week (a housemate lent me it)
- got fairly good about 1.5 years in, guess u could say I was experiencing all the 'good shit' - regular SNL's, threesomes, multiple sexual partners etc (helped I learnt while at uni eh?)
-continued that for a further year 'living the dream' as they say
- met an amazing girl 6 months a go, changed my whole perspective on everything, fell in love for the first time (didnt love my first gf)

Which brings me to now, right at the end of my 3rd and final year of uni, with exams assignments all due in no later than a month from now, and then I head out to the big wide world. At current me and my girl live 30 minutes from each-other so there is no biggie, however I am leaving uni and moving back home which changes us to a 2.5 hours distance drive apart...

After alot of discussion we have suggested we move in together to keep the ball rolling, as a kind of 'all or nothing' kind of guy, I just can't see us working for a long period if we lived that far away, and I really dont want to ruin what I have with her, so I am genuinely debating moving in with her. She's amazing and ticks all the boxes for me. I am pre-empting typical responses in the nature of 'fuck her, move on' or 'you'll meet another girl just like her'.

However, I feel I have enough infield experience to know this is not the case, A girl like this really is few and far between, she really is that perfect girl you rarely hear about... - amazingly pretty, amazing body, tits, ass, beautiful eyes, gorgeous long blonde hair, friendly, chilled out, caring, independant, non-needy etc. We are great together, everyone says it and in 6 months we have NEVER argued, not once... We see each-other 2-3 times a week, which works well because we are both busy people with our own lives, but I guess my question is do you think 6 months might be a bit early? and potentially ruin a good thing? Any similar personal situations or anything from you guys???

Cheers

Tbh i dont really see any problem here man.

If i was u i would go for it, stay with her, move in.

But then again if it were me i would be sold on the long blonde hair anyways lol

just move in with her u weirdo.

just make sure u always keep ur own space

...and always have an exit plan.

Keep your finances separate, especially do not buy a property jointly - unless she is paying the mortgage of course ...

my exit plan is this

If it ends, Dont try and re kindle it, book a holiday the following week. Move on

Phil's got a great book to help with that.

Due to your circumstances if you try for a long distance relationship the relationship will fail
in my lenghy experience with long distance- unless you can spend quality time together weekends etc then the relationship will be under massive strain and eventually fail - even spending weekends together puts a strain on a relatiopnship if it involves you both travelling long distance to do it.

so my point is
Dont tie yourself too much-- dont buy a house, Rent one for at least a year , living together puts new stresses on a relationship - it will makie or break it, things will either be crap or work really well - bit like going on a 2 week holiday together but more so because there is crap stuff todo like washing up, ironing financial stresses etc

open a joint account and both pay an equal amount in (assuming you are both working and earning similair)
RENT somwhere, DONT get a mortgage yet - you dont want that ball and chain just now until you are sure it will work out with you 2.

ps its not the end of the world- so many people panic about living together like is a prison sentence, you can always get out!
pps another gem of advice i can give- dont cripple yourself financially to live somwhere- it will hurt your relationship, ensure youve got plenty og money left to do nice things together, but remember who your friends are

Here's a shit sandwich for ya

Cliche - Better to regret the things you have done than the things you haven't.

The world population stands at around 7 Billion people so the chances of meeting "the one" are slim. In fact based on those statistics you're as likely to win the lottery jackpot 50 times. Having said that, you said perfect not "the one" but remember those stats if things ever go Pete Tong.

Final slice - If it feels good and she makes you happy then do it and I wish you the very best of look with it along the way :-)

No such thing as 'the one' it's a social construct.