Ryte guys , i need some serious help here , and im hoping some of you can relate and give me some advice ...

Basically im fucked , i was literally fine going about my usual life picking up women and doing the ususal ... Until 3 Days Ago ! This shouldn't happen to me ! Im a PUA goddamit , i dont want to feel like this .

One of my best girl mates for like 2 years comes round , we chat have dinner , then we're on the sofa and basically a couple of hours later we lying together being all lovey and shit and then we kiss ... So she says how much she wants to stay and does then when she gets off home later on im fine !

Then the fucking next day , she comes in , like nothing has happened , says she has too much going on to even think about what happened and now doesn't even seem to care , even that much about being friends ....

Worst part is , after 2 years and then one night , im so goddam heartbroken that she just brushed it off ! i just want to sit in the dark ... WTF ! Im really down here guys and need some advice .

P.s dont tell me im being a girl and to get over it cos im well aware of that ... i need constructive advice

Cheers
Swype

Could be a shit test to see what your reaction would be.

What was her state of mind the night you kissed? if she was in an emotional mindset she could just be regretting what happend.

My advice, go out get lots of female opinons on it and see where it leads. It would be alot better staying in and going over and over things in your head.

This is an impossible situation. I've been here twice myself and found no way to solve it. It ruined one friendship.

Men are only friends with women if they exhibit something they find attractive, same as we're only friends with blokes who exhibit personality traits we admire. (Nobody’s friends with a sleazebag). So you have always found this woman attractive, maybe it was her looks, maybe it was her personality, or even the way she treated you. But there was always some invisible incomprehensible thing that made you treat her as a friend and not a possible mate. But when she showed interest in you that all changed, the line became blurred and you found that attraction finally exerting itself. This new infusion was made all the more potent by the fact you’ve been friends for so long, so you know and trust each other – you’ve skipped the awkwardness of the first stages of attraction and leap straight into the trust zone. This has the effect that you had no defences set up to counter possible rejection, so you just accepted and went with the flow. Now you’ve reached the ebb, she’s retracted her feelings and, because you had no inner defences, you feel betrayed, hurt and vulnerable. She has reached in, past your normal walls and touched you where your weakest – proving that you’re not as strong as you think and inciting fear. Now you want to cling to what you had that one night, but she’s no interested.

My advice is to get stinking drunk and think of it as a present from her to you. You can’t open a present twice; it only comes once. You enjoy it while it lasts. Then remember it fondly when its over. Drink, be merry, and thank her for her gift, don’t let it fester inside you like some insidious malice breading toxin. You have to learn to move on and keep going. Survive. If all else fails, steam roller your feelings. Drink to excess, take drugs, get laid, whatever it takes.

N.B.

Its Platonic, not Plutonic. Plutonic suggests its radioactive, or a small semi-planet formed from ice and gas. Sorry. Anality.

I have hidden depth. Ha ha!

Cheers sin , that's what i was after , someone who's been through it all before (even twice) i rekon ill take that on board and sort it out . Thanks again man .
Thanks
Swype

No problem mate, glad to help. As I said, just be indomitable, go out and get pissed, your amazing and you know it. If anyone doesn't think so its their problem not yours!

Swype,

She is giving you game after you got a taste so did she and now your game is string in the cats paws but all she has done is dangle hers for you to go jump to catch it and fall back into the old ways of begging and placating her or any women.... It is an easy trap to fall into..... You need to isolate her, give her the cold shoulder and screw her best friend anything!!

Think about the social dynamics that have gone on..... This is a classic case of oneitus.....

I realise this thread was started months ago and has probably been resolved, but no harm in putting it back to the top of the pile, especially if my advice can help out anyone else in this situation.

This exact thing happened to me with a girl from uni. We met in the first week, hit it off and have been best friends ever since. For most of the 1st year I really liked her (classic one-itis - she had a boyf who she was constantly on about dumping). Anyway, she never did dump him and I got over it and we just carried on being friends.
Along came second year (this year just gone). Boyfriend disappears, and suddenly one night at the end of last year she jumps me, we have a great (if slightly drunken) night and all these feelings come rushing back so I'm thinking "fantastic - here's the start of something amazing!".
Wrong. Call me a pussy, but I bottled bringing it up the following morning, as did she. We ended up drifting apart, she started seeing someone else, and since then it's been distinctly awkward between us. We're still friends, but it's not what it once was.

Anyway, my advice is in line with what Sin was on about - I just did whatever it took to get the hell over her. I found the best way was to tell myself, in a way that I believed it, that it was never going to happen and there was nothing I could do about it. I think about it in a Fight Club sort of way - anyone who has seen the film will know that one of the main themes is that to lose all hope, to lose yourself in oblivion, is freedom. Without pain, without sacrifice, we have nothing.

In fact, I think I'll make that my new signature thingy!

I've been in this situation but from the other way around. I've kissed girls then been embarrased and really hesitent to speak to the girl again in case it wasn't what she wanted or something. Maybe she's just embarassed or has other problems, she must like you to have kissed you so don't blame yourself man.

What a great fucking line!
Luckily I've never been in this situation. Although I do believe your relationship is fucked beyond recovery and you need to cut it now to prevent further pain.
Although you should be in a different situation now so I'd love to hear what the outcome was...