So as you know me and my girl split up and I posted a few weeks back how could I get her back. So far what's happened is we met up (I gave her space in the end) then she said lets give it another go. The next day she completely changed her mind (do women really change their mind overnight?) and she apologised etc etc and said she felt she led me on. What I believe has happened is what her friends have said has rubbed off on her (social consequences, I think in some ways I have not social proofed myself enough) she told one of her friends we was going to give it another shot and she was not very happy, even though she said it is not influencing her decision it is subconsciously and I know she is in denial about the way she feels. So I think more time is needed. In all honest I don't know I'm not prepared to give up yet as for some reason I feel that it is possible to get anyone back.

So why am I writing this you say? Well advice might be needed I'm not to sure, I would like to know if women really do change their mind overnight. Anyway, so far what I have learnt is when trying to get someone back don't act soft or AFC (she now said I'm not the person she fell for as I tried so hard to get her back, I'm still that person she just doesn't know)

The main thing is DHV seriously this is such a big thing. Showing her that you can walk away if need be and that you can still protect her if needed but also DHV'ing the people around her as it is their mind set that rubs off on to her. If she is thinking I'm not so sure about bob this may happen that might happen. Then she is going to be in the wrong frame of mind and Bob wont be her focus. Where's if you show DHV to her friends they will be saying how are things with Bob, what's happening with Bob then Bob will be her focus and a positive focus too.

I think a good guideline to getting back with someone once you have broken up is the MM, because those are the stages that you are going to have to go through again. In some ways you should not game them at all but in other ways you should game them as though you are a completely different person. The ex you are trying to game should see the change as you are gaming them in a different way for a different reason and in that they may think the person has changed. You just need to make sure that you do not trigger any of the old responses that caused you to fall out in the first place.

My next plan of action is, she is going to the same club as me on a night out with her friends and I'm going with my friends its strictly out of coincidence, we are not going together we are just going to meet, she wants to share a dance. Anyway that's the time when I can social proof myself with her friends, I think if I act a bit soft to them and say that I like my ex and I want her to be happy (with me) and convey the right message I think it will work. I am also going with a natural and another PUA and the plan is for them to pull her HB friends. Then that way she will feel left out and isolated leaving me to talk to her.

That's my plan and opinion. What are you thoughts?

NT

This time a year ago i was in EXACTLY the same position as you man, desperate for my girl back. The only difference being i didnt know anything about game, i only discovered it by chance by googling random how to get an ex back shit.

The girl i loved turned out to be a nightmare, we went seperate ways then she contacted me 5 months later pregnant to me & has been a total bitch ever since.

I will never let one girl have such control/power over me ever again in the sense that she will have to be pretty spectacular for me to fall in love with her.

If you love her, go for it BUT be very fucking careful mate cos in my experience the one you love the most ends up hurting you more than you can imagine.

How can you expect you write the next chapter of your life if your still reading the last paragraph.

so your sayin ur a nob so u wanna pretend to be someone else for a bit??

you sound like a weirdo, her mind is made up, ur not gonna change her friends minds, its over, let it go! all ur gonna do here is make a little game in ur own head, and ur gonna lose!

just dont go the club!

"plans" are things for blokes by blokes.

Women are fickle and illogical and any "plan" involving one is doomed to failure. Its like doing a rubiks cube - you think your making progress but then you realise your at a dead end with no idea where you went wrong. Life is just too short to worry about such shit.

basically, they are already loving the camaraderie of slaggin u off & trying to hook her up with a new boy!

who will probably be there on that night! i see an army on the horizon... an army of darkness!

dan has fought this army before... few tell a tale of glory

Fight the urge man. It's when you do the things you don't want to do that you get to be the person you want to be.

walking away is the only answer
there will be many people on here that have learned from experience it will save you emotional heartache in the long run
i learned this lesson to

somthing to also remember - somtimes youve got to let somone go in order to get them back
ive had people i was really into but strong enough to walk away from because they messed me about- get back in touch with me 6 months even 2 years later and ive then been able to get themback in the sack
but dont ever think relationship wise there is anyway back
just a quick bum and even then i wasnt that interested

I lost.....& won

Cant really add much to this.
No Touch youve got some solid advice on here mate,take it.
Do yourself a favour walk away move on,show your not weak and need to chase this chick around to get her back.I think most if not all came on here because they were obsessed by a girl and wanted to get her!!
The truth is at least for me is i probs never will get that girl i was chasing and even if i did now 6months later i dont think she is what i wanted in my life anyways.