hi guys

I got to an extremely annoying sticky point: in the last 2 weeks I got 4 girls to spend the night with me (3 at my place and one at hers). i had an incredible night with each of them with kissing, fooling around, some naked swimming in the lake, some smoking joints, just a really cool and relaxed athmosphere.

then in the bed everything starts off amazingly.. both of us are extremely horny, play around, kiss, bite, and get undressed. i go down on her and stopped just before she comes, just to make her even hornier. but then, when i want to get the rubber friend, she make it clear to me that she doesnt want to have sex.

WTF? can somebody explain to me why they would block sex off after such an incredible time? does somebody have advice how to prevent this?


underflyer

I have to side with K on this one getting up and turning the lights on is childish and disrespectful, how's she going to trust you to have sex with you if at the first sign of resistance you get up and turn on the TV?

If she says no, keep kissing and touching make her hornier, she might say no again so keep at it eventually she won't be able to resist. It's her proving to you that she is not a slut and you have had to work to have sex with her.

Grinding against her and Putting a condom on just to "be safe" works, i've done that before.

I personally have never had LMR off a woman who has given me oral. I always thought it was a given that a women would want sex if she was willing to suck your dick. In fact, I think it is a given. Look up techniques on how to combat LMR, I'm sure you'll find something that suits you and works! Just remember - Whatever your doing, do it with confidence becasue she DOES want to have sexy time with you!

Ritz

kowalski, oral sex is awesome! but sometimes its just even better to have really amazing sex

with one of the girls i tried a NLP happy maker I found on youtube (YouTube - NLP Anchoring Explained) and it worked fine. she was so overwhelmed by happiness that it turned into a very horny kind of happiness..

what do you guys think about taking it easy at that point and going for it on another day?

also, what is the typical mistake that leads to LMR? what should i do more and what less of?

underflyer

Well my opinion is firstly I think freeze-outs can be done maturely(not by turning lights on and shit) but by being like "hey I don't mind if you're not up for it" then just hug and go sleep or something, as long as it makes her feel like shes missed out but that you don't mind it'll work in the same way without you being a dick.
However I think a way to avoid this problem all together is to let her make a lot of the moves and you can be the one to pretend to be unsure, drop suggestions like with what kowalski said fo sho but make sure she feels unpressured and that its not a big deal - you're only having fun afterall. And remember man, maybe the chicks you were with haven't slept with many/any guys before or they've had a bad experience so don't let it dishearten you, you're still the fucking king.

Good point the only problem is she might not initiate anything but then I guess you could just do it and ramp it up again. Also when I was a chode when I said ok and stopped she never reinitiated anything, maybe that's because I had no idea what was going on or didn't do it properly.

An awesome point, I'm pretty sure I didn't get any further with this 0one girl because she was inexperienced, she was so bad at oral that I doubt she'd had much sex.

Guys,

I have recently discovered my own sticking point while on a recent night out and that is when I open up a set with a hot girl I can hook their attention and then for some reason my mind goes completely blank I lose every thought I can stumble but if it is a not so hot girl I can continue chatting for ages....this is not gd coz it portrays me as not being able to hold a convo!!

Maybe I am thinking to much a/bout it or maybe it is because I have not spoken to enough of them yet?

I would love to hear your thoughts on this as it getting me frustrated

Flush