Im going the cinema/food tonight with a girl from work. This will be the first proper time we have met outside of work

She lives nearby ( the cinema ) and has just moved into her house ( logistics are perfect as she knows Im staying with a friend due to the distance I live from work )

The problem is that the banter we have on txts has very little if not any flirting involved.. so i feel outside my comfort zone when it comes to me escalating with her as i dont know if she just see's me as a work friend or hot guy who is going to smash her.

now as im awesome and a solid 9 im going to go with ( hot guy who is going to smash her. ) and the lack of flirting from her may just be...how she is ( she is abit shy in person )

Im not bothered about f closing her tonight as im more looking forward to seeing mission impossible and getting fat off nando's but id like to escilate and see her more

But im worried that if escalate she will throw the ( wow were only friends ) card in my face...Im normally okay with rejection..but rejection from a work colleague who I quite like ( not oneitis! ) rattles my cage abit

( she lives 5 min from work with her own place , She is very busy with work and doesnt have much of a socail life which works for me as I could be her nice distraction from work and it not turn into something serious )


So yea..not really sure why I posted this now after typing it but its good to vent

Like Jaz said don't shit where you eat (or work)

But if you are going to chase it then feel it out with a bit of kino, see how she responds to a little more touching than friends would but not too invasive. If that goes well then crank it up to full charm!

gawd

Ok considering i had sex with a girl in my work for 2 years IN WORK and for 6 months of that we were having sex twice a day in work!!!
nailed her everywhere, even filmed it.
She dared me to go ahve a wank in the loo and spunk on a cracker which i brought back for her and she sat in the office eating it
but ended up with massive heartache when it all went tits up etc etc LTR brakdown yadda yadda

still, shagging work people is fun and shagging at work is fun
but it carries massive risk and it depends how awesome you are to pull it off

so that over with

you should have made your intentions clear from the start
dont be a big gaylord and not make a move on her and leave yourself wondering if she likes you or not

my plan in your shoes would be simple

early on the date

Me: hmmm so is this classed as a date (cheeky smile)
her: no we are just friends
Me: are you trying to say you dont fancy me?
her: no we are friends etc etc (insert any negative brush off)

now you can either play nice and enjoy the rest of the night then walk away

or you can burn your bridges which i like doing somtimes but to be fair all this is your own fault for not establishing intent before the date otherwise you could ahve avoided it all

it could go

Me: hmmm so is this classed as a date (cheeky smile)
her: oh maybe what do you think?
Me: well you are a nice looking girl so i would hope it is?
her: (look for positive comments and then move forward, kino etc)

Now i`ll admit my methods are not always the best way to bed girls BUT they are Brutally efficient
i WILL NOT orbit a girl, i WILL NOT sit in her friends zone
I WILL make my intentions clear from the start and if its not inline with what i want i will eject

Rational and Normal Me agree's with this. But problem is that she is 5ft with Size E baps. and wears nice little short skirts to work.

Now as we do both work together..we dont see each other that much as we work at other parts of the building. and we dont know the same work collogues ( positive I guess )

For some reason I cant explain I have added extra value to this girl just because she is from work ..if she wasnt from work i would be treating this situation differently... very odd"!

Reflex,

I now see how much time is wasted from not making my intentions fully clear from the start. casues issues that im now having to deal with...

ok, why would she go the pictures with sum-one she doesn't like?

If she goes, wer just mates?? say calmly... yes i know? what do u think i want a relationship with u? then just move onto doin somethin else.

rejection is only rejection if u make it so, if u make her feel stupid for making a big thing of it, she will question her decision.

in ur mind, ur mates who are goin out, probly have sex, not a big deal... if she makes it a big deal, she is weird!

end of

Ive known of lots of girls who are just lonely and like the attention with no intention to shag the guy, they just string him along

the OP said himself she is very busy and works all the time- maybe she doesnt have much of a life and wants some company.

you big fag!

i agree with some girls just want some attention without the intetion of a shag. But I would of thought a girl like her who works all the time would like the idea of casual fun ..that being cinema..sexercise

But i only have a small insight into her life and she may have other things going on.

I feel now im making this into a bigger issue. Im going to man up.. enjoy the night and let her become overwhelmed with my awesomeness.

just make sure you test her out - kino, flirting etc to see what you get back, that way you know

Sounds like a sensible approach, When I was 15/16 I didnt give a fuck about any of this stuff.. Id just get my cock out all the time and put there hand on it... Good times

ive done that plenty of times -- its even swung a chick that didnt want to fuck into fucking me