It's kind of interesting how people lose attraction for someone they once liked though. I've lost interest in people fairly often and not even wanted to sleep with them after that let alone know them but I think in the case of this girl, she lost interest because I caused her to lose feelings (told her we'd go out a couple of times and then cancelled on the day - hardly surprising in hindsight as I wasn't consistent or honest and just dragged it out over months not going anywhere).
Actually, there were probably a few more complications than that in me asking about her lesbo past and how many people she'd slept with. It was the same number as me, I didn't care, I didn't hold it against her, but I think her previous ex boyfriend had been very jealous/mistrusting and pushed her away so maybe she thought I'd do the same...who knows.

I think with a couple who are clearly looking for a relationship, it's more than likely you'll have a honeymoon phase and then a settling down/love/emotional thing.
Wouldn't you say the attraction phase is the honeymoon phase?

Honeymoon phase is fucking bullshit

I've been with a girl before for over 2 years and the sex was still amazing - granted it didn't last cos I was a cheating prick but still..

Honeymoon phase, Attraction phase, life isn't in phases.
A relationship is the connection of two people that constantly shifts and changes.
At first, yes you lust after each other out of pure hornyness. It is known that sex is more common at first.. it does NOT have to die out though... You can keep the spark alive..
I think many on this forum including me have been burned and it distorts the view of relationship success with women. It is possible..


Me personally.. I don't want daily sex, I'm happier with it couple times a week but each time, it is amazing and different. Sometimes loving, slow soft and passionate, others ripping her hair back from behind calling her a whore.

Went through my head but no, I'm learning my lesson slowly.
I might ask questions (helps you know the person) but I've done odd things myself in the past.

Didn't say spark had to die just that feelings evolve. Honeymoon doesn't have to be all about sex but it is all about interest, attraction, sparks, etc.
If the feelings don't evolve and instead stop or die out for whatever reason is what I was referring to - it's just easier to refer to phases. Of course there's no set time limit or rule.

GenePoole, I personally find that I no longer have that honeymoon phase. Admittedly my relationships tend to be a bit more casual however I would say that the "honeymoon period" comes from the euphoria of learning about somebody. Then you get to know them and become comfortable.

I tend not to get into the comfortable stage, you need to keep trying new things, surprising them and if I find they can't keep up or just want a humdrum existence I'll tend to leave them to find somebody who wants to give them that.

only read the origional post....

personally in my trip to establish high value for myself
ive gone from chatting to a hot girl and when she says - oh im busy for 2 weeks but we can meet after that - me then saying 'oh ok thats fine' to me now saying 'na dont worry about it'

i beleive that if i am not high enough value for somone to MAKE time for me soon then they can bugger off.

so shoe on the other foot-- lots of hot girls think like this too especially when they dont hold you in mega high value.

This is on 1st meet though, which is very different to after a few weeks or months. But it's true, there's only so much crap 1 person can take.
In my case, I originally had the higher value as she was chasing, I lost it by being a div :rolleyes: