What Insecurities do/did you have?
How did you over come them? (or how do you think you will overcome them?)

AJay

I never used to be able to read IOI's in conversations, and then I would begin to panic and overthink the situation, almost always beating down my natural instincts telling me to push forward and instead I would kill all attraction, getting stuck in the friends zone.

Now I can see IOI's logically, but even more so I've learned to turn off my logical brain or to not allow my logical brain to fuck with what I'm naturally feeling about situations, which is working MUCH MUCH better.

That, and bad hygiene. Bad hygiene no more and never again!

my only insecurity i feel is that of falling for someone... i hate that out of control feelin with your emotion.

i hate the fact that i could turn into that sniveling needy guy. ir even if i can control him in the eys of others... id still feel that emotional torment.

ive found in the past relationships are not nice places to be in.... ergo avoid emotion

this is a major insecurity. but one that keeps me in control

Does it though? It keeps you where you want to be now but what about in 5-10-20 years?
It depends on your view of whether people are supposed to settle down together or not - not all emotional investment in girls is bad but I can see how you would have that view if past relationships had that effect.

what is the deal with people sayin IN 20 years! on this forum.

why cant u lot live ur life as it is now... why are you preparing for a PERFECT retirement...

ur gonna fall foul of ailments anyway.... ur body when ur young is resilient, its made so it can heal.

whatever i feel or do now, emotional or physical is for the moment. and i have 20 years to change it.

THESE ARE THE DAYS UR NOT GONNA GET BACK! LIVE THEM TO THE FULLEST! (and that doesnt mean abuse ur body.

i wonder if we could see a pattern of A, Male B, Ability to enjoy live without concern & C, how well you are socially.

would

a + b = c ?

shud we do a thread!?

I can relate to this and it has made me go quite cold on women emotionally.. But as mentioned in other threads, successful people take risks.. so maybe take a risk with a woman too? (Awaiting jokes here)

Sometimes, when I'm around hot girls AND there are other lads there that I don't know well, I can feel a little intimidated, one of my fears is my face going red if someone threw banter at me.. I don't quite understand why cos usually banter doesn't bother me I love having a laugh and joke with lads and girls.. but its when theres uber hot girls there and I can't control my face going red and then I feel really hot..

OCCASIONALLY and not very often I get the odd insecurity about performance in bed.. but I slap myself and snap out of it.. I think to myself, I don't give a shit if she cums or not.. I'm fucking her cos she's fit and I enjoy it and it feels great

This is just because you are 'afraid' of being out of control due to bad experiences.

I learned if you truly want to connect with somone youve got to be open and honest about your feelings otherwise you risk missing that amazing special somone that could be your life partner--all because you were afraid to open up and take a risk on them.

i think one of the things that makes a true man is not somone that doesnt feel fear but feels fear and pushes onwards regardless

Could not of said it any better myself mate

Hahaha if i was gona list all my insecurities there would be no space left for anyone else to write on this thread.I think the main one im combating at the moment is that ive always view the world as a hostile place thats out to get me or cheat me out of something.I think also as i dig deeper into me im finding a lot of conflicting views ie i hate people,but i want them to love me,im afraid of growing old alone,but i dont want to let people get 2 close to me because they will realize i how fucked up i really am!!
I think to get to where i want to be i need to keep digging and questioning,plus keeping going out and doing the best i can

Been there Phil, kinda am at the moment.... in a battle with myself.... wether or not to let my feelings go or to fight them.... although i think im tired of fighting it now and think i regret not. Still possible to keep control and let your feelings go.

AJay