Today I was reflecting on the year I've had since joining the forum - it's been eventful, with many ups and downs, but ultimately it has been one of progress.

I gained a girlfriend, lost a girlfriend, made many friends on the forum, been out with some cool guys, went on a solo holiday for the first time, and did a mad weekend with GLG that also turned out to be a pivotal moment where I questioned the whole purpose of what I was doing.

In the last few weeks I've been doing a lot of reading, and in the last week one book has given me a fresh perspective - George Leonard's 'Mastery'.

When it comes to success with women, some people will look for that magic bullet; I was one of those people when I first got into this. But I have now realised it will never materialise. And advice from here, as well as books I have read, are all pointing to one statement playing over and over in my mind:

Focusing on the process, rather than the outcome.

'Mastery' refers to learning to enjoy your time on the plateau (otherwise known as a 'sticking point') and simply further refining your technique through constant practice. This has really resonated with me.

So I have decided to chart my experiences of the next year in a journal with the highs and lows, successes and failures. I tried before, but didn't stick at it - this time one of my goals is to do that! The ship has sailed and I cannot forsee what lies ahead - exciting times.

Potential. Covert Operation's long term journal was great and it's a shame he's not on the forum anymore, stick to this.

"It is better to travel well than to arrive."
Buddha

Well done SmileyK, remember to have fun!