Hey guys,

I met this girl two Saturdays ago at a bar, it was her and her friend who approached me and my friend, anyhow we got chatting, flirting, kissing etc, same as my friend and his girl, then we went for a walk and the girl was kind of hot and cold on me, one second she would kiss me and the next she would say ahh im not really affectionate etc etc.

Anyways she went home with her friend i gave her my number and we were constantly texting for 5 days, good text banter etc, i found out her ex is a bit of a stalker , and found myself trying really hard to put value on myself as if she was trying to play me down as a man?? Dunno if it was bitch test or just banter. I think it was a bit of both.

She keeps telling me she goes on loads of dates and that she is bisexual, she also said to me that shes canceled alot of dates as she only likes concentrating on one person at a time (me), shes is very contradictory.

I met her last Thursday for a drink at a bit of a rowdy bar, when i got there her friend was very drunk and my girl was kind of looking after her, anyway we couldn't talk much because the music was very loud, we ended up kissing a little bit and dancing a little bit then she left with her friend about 30 mins before the place closed and called me to come and meet her because her stupid drunk friend had collapsed and they needed help.

Cut the story short, i left the club with my friend, we helped them on the bus and dropped them home, on the way home she started being hot and cold with me again, id try and hold her hand she would let go after a while and walk ahead. anyways we dropped them off i said good bye and she started texting me all kind of bullshit about how i was talking about her ex and shit like that (i never bring up ex talk) it was all her doing. i told her to text me when she was sober , so she did and was very apologetic the next day.

So we have abit more text banter up until today, some of it was getting really sexual and flirty, but it was started by her.

she told me a couple of days ago that she had told her mum about me and asked if i wanted to come over to hers on Thursday i said sure and we arranged the date, then today we were talking about the Thursday date and it went a bit like this:

Her "check the weather for Thursday for me"
Me "why?"
Her "well im meeting you on Thursday so i need to know what the weathers going to be like"
Me "I thought i was coming to your house?"
Her " I want to meet up earlier and if it goes well we can go back to my house"
Me "ermm ok then...."
Her "Im not going to fuck you"

This really kind of pissed me off for two reasons, number one she always instigates the sexual tone of the conversation, and number two she asked me if i wanted to come hers and now shes changed her mind and its kind of confused me as to why??

This girl is really intelligent and good looking, and her personality kind of has me hooked and intrigued about her, we have some really long and funny text conversations and i can feel chemistry there, but shes really hot and cold and that shit she pulled on me today has got me thinking do i really wanna keep chatting to someone so indecisive.

After the conversation above i told her i was quite offended and that id text her later because i don't wanna go off at her...that was about 2 hours ago.

any advise guys???

That's about as obvious that it gets that she wants to fuck you.
You should have done some flirting right there!
...but she's clearly dirty.

ITS CALLED FLIRTING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! TEASE HER!!!!! WHEN SHE SAYS "im not going to fuck you" for next time thats your cue to tease and say something like

"Thank god for that i was all nervous "
"Good, im the one that does the fucking "
"Im not going to fuck you either"
"Good to see you value me enough not to take advantage of me like all the others"
"Yea your totally right, fucking is for losers"


Anyway its easy to fix your problem, dont let your emotions for this lovely young lady get the better of you. If she is smart and intelligent like you say, this is because you have an emotionally linked linguistic connection with her (the begginings of falling in love).......... Which means shes feeling exactly what your feeling! Always be joking with her and playful! The worst thing you can do now is be serious about anything she says (this is for later when your a couple). Be boyishly cheeky with her (you proberly already are). She doesnt want to come across like a slut! Thats more than likely why she said she doesnt want to fuck you! (that and shes just enticing you to banter more with her).

ANYWAY GOOD LUCK

AJay

What AJay said, flirt!

Don't take her seriously! because she might be winding you up

or if she is actually being serious with the BS - cut loose and find somebody else - you don't want a relationship that's gonna be hard work because she sounds like she would happily bitch to everyone about you over nothing when it goes wrong...

either that or bite your cock off mid-coitus