Thanks to everyone for their advice, I have found allot of the different opinions & solutions this situation very valuable. :)

actually the very day of this post i landed a date with a girl through FB- she asked to chat to me on the phone and then bent my ear yapping on for ages, in fact i got bored part way through and scrolled through my txt messages.
i later joked we would have no silences because she talks all the time and i`ll just have to shut her up by kissing her-- we then hit a sexual frame and discussed oral and sex etc
and that she loves giving head--
so as i said-- i made her conscious of her talking, i then cleverly reframed it into a sexual frame and led the interaction