First I need to be honest: I don't have a lot of experience with girls, and I don't know a lot about picking up girls. I'm not just looking for sex, I'm looking for a relationship.

A girl I spoke to about a year and half ago, just started speaking to her again properly.

I spoke to her about a year and a half ago and she wouldn't do anything because she said that she had just come out of a long term relationship and wasn't ready, but she said she really liked me and any other time she would have said yes. I got fed up of waiting and saw another girl. My relationship with that other girl lasted about a year. I've recently started speaking the first girl again.

I was at a karate tournament yesterday (so was her brother), she was supposed to be turning up, we said we'd meet. I text her a while after I got there saying that I was putting my phone away (about to compete) and that she could find me when she got there.

I got no messages back and didn't hear from her that day. The following conversation started this afternoon:

her: Sorrrry i couldnt come sunday I had to help my friend tidy up cus so many people were hung over and i wasnt
And i couldnt even get to see my brother

me: okay, don't worry

her: You annoyed with me?

me: no, it's fine, I know you were busy

her: you ok?

me: yeah im good thanks. you?

her: im ok



What's the best way to progress from here? And also what's the best thing to do when a girl asks if you're annoyed with her?

Thanks.

Were you annoyed with her? Because the shortness of your texts could convey a level of annoyance - don't forget that texts can be read a hundred differnt ways by a hundred different people.

If you were annoyed, you should have said so. Not in a "I'm so pissed off with you right now!" kind of way, but more just "well, I was looking forwards to seeing you and you never even bothered texting me til now that you couldn't make it. So yeah, I kinda am annoyed"

If you are truthfull with her, she will respect you for it. If she does wrong, let her know about it - cos girls sure as hell will you know when you've done wrong.

Can't really comment on how to progress because don't know where you are at really... Are you guys just friends atm? Does she ever put kisses on the end of her texts? That might seem like a trivial question, but it could be a good indicator of her interest in you.

Much love,

Craigus

you: cool! im takin you out soon to make up for it.


.....move on if she doesn't agree to it.

"yes but I'm happy to receive compensation either in cash or sexual favours"

When a girl is seeking your approval like this then you the upper hand which should use by ramping things up a bit sexually. OK you could be a bit more subtle and say "I'm sure I can find a way for you to make it up to me" then allow the innuendos to build up in a jokey way. Its an open door if you exploit it properly. You missed this opportunity but dont throw away others that she present you with.

the problem with this is you're framing her doing sexual favours as your benefit. You want to frame it the other way round. e.g she does you a favour you say sorry short of cash I'll pay you in kind.

Listen to what everyone has to say but remember, if you ask the wrong person for directions you may get more lost than you were in the first place.

Im judging your young, maybe 16ish???

The less you want her the more she will want you.

Its difficult to give any advice on this, theres no magic words or txt that will work. But the more you chase the further something will run.

I would suggest maybe phoning her when your with your friends ( or at your most confident emotional state), not to arrange a date or shit but just as thoh it was a spur of the moment thing.... make sure your the one who hangs up...saying something like i gotta go were off out. THE WORST THING YOU CAN DO IS WHAT YOUR DOING NOW, AND THATS OVER ANALYSING EVERYTHING....TRUST ME IT WILL SCREW YOU UP!!

AJay

Listen to what everyone has to say but remember, if you ask the wrong person for directions you may get more lost than you were in the first place.

Im judging your young, maybe 16ish???

The less you want her the more she will want you.

Its difficult to give any advice on this, theres no magic words or txt that will work. But the more you chase the further something will run.

I would suggest maybe phoning her when your with your friends ( or at your most confident emotional state), not to arrange a date or shit but just as thoh it was a spur of the moment thing.... make sure your the one who hangs up...saying something like i gotta go were off out. THE WORST THING YOU CAN DO IS WHAT YOUR DOING NOW, AND THATS OVER ANALYSING EVERYTHING....TRUST ME IT WILL SCREW YOU UP!!

AJay

It depends what you want. Take charge and ask her out. If not, time to move on to the other 1001 girls in your neighbourhood.