The person who lives in the room next door to me has moved out. In hes place a chines girl moved in. Getting to know her a little over the few days wich followed I learnt that she is a very nice person. Some more time passed and I am sure we are fast becoming friends. Now I find myself thinking about her way to much.

I would love to try and make a move with her but the situation is that she has alot of baggage with her. Job and ex- boyfriend that sort of thing. The time just is not right and I dont want to be the crutch or rebound guy. I would like to give her a little time and when she is ready I want to be there.

I dont know. Maybe I am just being a dumb ass. Please tell me if I am. Or if I am not please give me some advice to find out what I should be looking for if she is interested in me.

Cheers

Invite her out for a coffee or a couple of drinks
make your intentions clear that you find her attractive and are interested in her as more than friends, but are not sure if she is ready for anything.
let her think on it

prolly the safest way to tread - that way you are not pushing her into somthing that could get you hurt or her, but at least she knows you like her.

ps i suck at pulling chinese girls!-- they are all scared of me

Well I looked up how to say "I think you are very beautiful." in chines. That seemed to catch her by surprise. She seemed to appreciate it. Also I am trying to drop little hints when ever I can. But nothing obvious yet.

You cant pull any chines girls because you are to good looking. It is a curse that some people like us need to bare,

noo not because im good looking but because im a big gruff meat head with a shaved head and tattoos!
ive found they are all scared of me!

Not surprised at that Reflex, I presume we're talking about native Chinese that have come over here opposed to British nationals right?

Not many people have tattoos in China and it's general associated with people that live rougher lifestyles. The culture difference is quite significant too, don't by any means think that cocky funny or being a knob will get you anywhere at all, it just comes across rude. Be friendly.

The easiest way to see the difference is to compare Chinese facebook photo albums and tags with western girls. Generally in the 18-30 age bracket these albums are filled with parties, clubs, partying and things associated with reckless behaviour for western women. If you take a look at Chinese albums they're mainly friends, family, restaurants, holidays.

In the Western world the staff take a pay cut to prop up a failing company. In China and Japan many CEOs took pay cuts in order to help their companies, some even earning less than their staff:



Asian cultures are generally collectivist whereas western cultures are individualist. There is a much higher regard for self restraint compared to the self expressionist culture in western society. Garish, loud and over the top western behaviour is a little shocking to them. I know a Japanese student who is incredibly envious of us here because she literally works 100+ hours a week studying, without As or better she will get nowhere over there(wanting to be a doctor) while students over here get to doss about and still become doctors.

On the other hand, there are those rebellious ones that do enjoy it, they're few and far between, in my experience they tend to overcompensate and be more garish (comparatively and for lack of a better word - I'm lazy) than Western girls are.

I just tried something. I asked her to grab some coffee with me but I then sent that message through google translate. So I sent it to her in chines. She seemed to get quite a laugh out of it It seems to have been a very positive response. Woot

underpatch do speak another language except English? Be careful with google translate.. it says something completely random. Once my friend posted on my wall meaning to say: Are you ready to party? in russian it came up as: Are you ready for a fat participant. So no wonder you made her laugh..

Mr Patch. What I wanna know is if you are gonna have a coffee with her, hang out, chat... or if you are bringing the A3 with you and gonna draw her?

As my underlying theme is: make sure u two chat, laugh, smile and joke! Drawing someone tends not to involve a huge amount of that -- instead its nearer to silence (unless u can multitask chat, listen and draw!!)

Kikoken!!!! *
Rebus

* Google Translate result for "cheers"

Well I spoke to her last night about the message I sent her. She said it was very wrong but she seemed to like the fact that I tried to message her in a different way. I say so because she beamed a smile the instant I mentioned the message.

While we where chatting I tried the through in a random complement. She was wearing her hair up because it was hot and she was cooking. (yes she can cook o so very well) I told her that I though her hair looked "informal yet elegant". I did not want it to sound like I want trying to hard. But I wanted it to be a genuine expression of what I thought. You know sometimes a smile takes over your face and you cant get rid of it despite trying. She had one of those. She told me that she thought I was such a sweet guy and then asked if she could make me something.

Woooot !

So now my question is how to I know when enough time has passed? Should I make a move or should I wait for some kind of signal from her ?

OMG it feels like an episode of dawsons creek!
fucking hell - get her to make you somthing, just go with it and see how things turn out.
stop living in this random dream state of making minature chess moves and then reflecting on it for 2 days and forum posting, with some slight dreamy masturbation thrown in.
you might be dead tomorrow - FUCKING LIVE IT