hey you lot im in a really shit situation there this ex army lad whos being a complete tosser with me hes going round giving the game away he going around telling everyone that i ask open-ended questions, tell storys ,tell jokes, insult women and read books.

and he's even telling people that i didnt lose my virginaty untill i was 22 what should i do?

Is this guy part of your social group? why is he doing this? Have you fallen out as friends? If it was me I'd call him out on it and let him know it's not on, but in a mature way.

Firstly what I would say is work on your inner-game. Why are you embarrassed about any of this stuff? You should be happy with who you are and what you do? It's only embarrassing because for some reason you feel ashamed - so think logically, what's the problem with open ended questions and good conversational skills. There's a few guys I know who tell girls sets I'm a "pick-up artist" or a "player" so I don't steal their set, I just smile say "I'd say more a socialite ... he's just jealous I'm talking to you now" they have a laugh, and I move on, there are plenty of girls out so leave them to theirs.
There is nothing wrong with bettering yourself, heck people get better bodies by going to the gym, you get a better social life by going out and being social.

As for reading books, read lots of stuff, greek mythology, fiction, A brief history of time, you should be proud that you read books to make yourself more intelligent and an all-round person. Even steer the conversation onto good books you've read because you can bet your bottom dollar that mr squaddy hasnt red anything that wasn't porn in years.

As for the age at which you lost your virginity, tell people the reason if you want "I was waiting for somebody special", "I've lost a lot of weight", "I was raised by nuns"
Or just make the quip "Why did i need to lose my virginity, his mum had been sucking me off for years" or "well i heard mickey mouse took his when he was 12 so he's just jealous of me"

So what to take from this:
Work on yourself so that you're not embarrassed or ashamed of who you are, because you're a good guy, you just need to realise this.
Talk to this guy, nicely, logically but firmly, to find out why he does this and what his problem is and if you feel comfortable doing it telling him to stop because it's not funny.

Fuck your insecurities about the situation is the best advice. Seriously stop caring about it and dont even react to it, you are you at thats that.

If someone questions you about something hes said, just be totally honest and say yeah and? If the guy trys to put you down infront of people just be non reactant and get on with what you're doing. He only has as much power over you as you let him.

As for making excuses or justifying when you lost your virginity, sod that.. It happened when it happened so what? You just need to realise that nothing that anyone thinks matters.

so he is telling people your educated & sociable... jus laff and say its called flirtiing u tit!

maybe u would be more busy talkin to girls than stalkin me if you followed my lead....

he thinks i locked him out of a party four year ago when i didnt it was his older brother

we used to be friend years ago he's friend with one of my friends

we were both at another party 2 year and we got into a massive argument and things have never been the same since

on the way home from a friends wedding i fell asleep on the coach an he shoved his foot in my face so i punched him in the face,so thats another reason he doent like me but i think i did right what do you lot think?

thanks for your help so far lads feel abit better

Don't hang around with this loser. He sounds like an obsessed sad bastard.

That is INSANE.

You did right punching him in my opinion.

Can you two not just make up and be "friends" just to avoid the conflict?

Theres nothing wrong with anything he has said "apart from INSULTING women, which I guess he means negging, in which case, just outright deny that.

If you're ever confronted by anything he has said, be proud of who you are and call him out on being so insecure with himself that he has to go spreading bullshit about you just to make him look better. And also make a joke that he can't read.

Alternatively, if you wan't to make his life hell, I'm sure you can start a new thread and some people here would give you some amazing pranks (There was a good thread on prank jokes sometime on here).

Why are you even putting yourself in a social situaton where he is?
I cut anyone like that out my life instantly for good reason becaise if i lose my rag with them, they aint getting back up and im going in a cell

Twist the situation, make him look like a social loser, hes obviously jelous of you as you know how to speak to woman. Bring him up on it and make him look like a emotional uncontrolable dick head. Give him a taste of his own medician.... theres going to be hundreds of things that he's insecure about, even if it seems like he isnt. Work them on and crack his balls over it.... Or if you can live with it just dont socialise with him. I personally would have to put him in his place, but thats me.

AJay