Lets say when a girl has flaked for instance....

i used to think i needed to text to show i wasnt assed, somethin like

"Thats cool x"

just so it was like showin IM NOT BOTHERED... but the problem is... i felt the need to send it to show i wernt... so i clearly was. i wanted to control the frame... OK LETS STOP....JUST FUCKIN LET IT GO... dont bother.. move on

dont ever feel the need to act in order to change things i.e

dont think "if i dont do ABC she might think XYZ

or

if i do do ABC she might XYZ

just dont bother doin anythin, coz u can, whatever ABC may be from her point Who cares it isnt ur shit anyway its hers.... if she has a cob on coz u dont reply to a text, she shouldnt have fuckin flaked. if she wants a specific response, she will act in such a way to warrant it, otherwise she will be forgotten.

the most powerfull tool in keeping control of maintianing a feeling of power of your life and not losing control, is stop trying to take control, stop caring about control!

if you do nothing....just becoz u can... it means ur in control! just learn to LET SHIT GO!

Shit like when you think

"She hasnt text me back".... So what... LET IT GO


She Acted a bit Strange, Maybe i should text and see what her response is so i can gauge whats goin on... NO... LET IT GO (whats goin on is ur a needy freak jib it the fuck off)

what can i do to get her to like me more.... LET IT GO!!!

DOES SHE LIKE ME???? IT DOESNT MATTER, IF SHE DOES THINGS WILL GO SMOOTH, IF NOT... U CANT CHANGE IT ANYWAY!!!!

LET

IT

THE

FUCK

GO

just learn, that if you breeze through life, and let shit go thats out of your control, stop needing to know trivial shit that validates u & just say... FUCK IT ...NEXT... with everythin... girls will just wanna know... WHY DOES HE LET STUFF GO SO EASY?????

ur new found freedom from need of validation, control will not only allow u to be selective, but uber cool.

ur life is to be lived for you... & love of urself... anythin outside of that is a bonus which you should have given to u & enjoy

never beg or ask or work for it.... just take

that is all

x

whats with the gay "x" on the end phil?

Great, great post.

This is what I was trying to say yesterday, actually not caring as opposed to faking it, if even only a little. Would seem a subtle step, but isn't. It's got genuine self esteem written all over it.

"Gaining control by giving up control" is a term used in sports psychology to encourage athletes to free up their movement...why not free up your life as well?

Not something I'm great at this, but whenever I have just thought "fuck it" and literally moved on, something shifts and good things tend to happen.

PS

it was a masculine kiss, u can tell as it didnt have one of chops smiley faces on

great post uncle Phil.

lets look at this from 2 points of view -1 of a gimp guy and 2 awesome guy

1 -Gimp Guy
socially akward, only ever had sex with 1 girl about 5 years ago
nothing interesting going on in his life-- not particualrily good looking and slighly over weight

if he doesnt chase chicks he has such little value that no chick will chase him- so he spends his time alone


2- awesome Guy
good looking, pulls hot birds, has abundance -- everyone chases him because he has ultra value

whats my point? im not sure-- think i am trying to say - not chasing birds or giving a shit only really works to full effect if you are awesome enough for girls to want to chase you

thanks aunty reflex

Cause and effect is not so clear cut. Girls want guys that other girls think are awesome (the old social proof thing), so a non-awesome guy who *acts* as if hes generally awesome with girls, will be more attractive to girls. At some point his fake awesomeness attracts girls and thus his awesomeness becomes real - a self fulling prophesy.

Well, thats kind of every PUA method ever, summarised

Good post, that was also what was in my mind, but there is a lull when you start that thought process before it turns around into awesomeness surely.

Is this whats meant by fake it til you make it?

fuck off!! I mean that constructively