What to do what to do what to do

[Darood]

Right, I feel the need ask this because I feel myself getting out of the game. Why I know 100% my ultimate goal my path to reaching it has become foggy. But enough of all that, I want to ask you all an important question...

If you wanted to live in the sexual abundance of a rock star, if you wanted to be the biggest playboy, pimp, stud, Casanova, Don Juan, sex machine, male whore, Mack Daddy, Beast, ladies Man, panty wetter of anyone you know. What would you physically have to do to get there.

If you were to be an average guy and if you were to put everything aside in your life except pick up what would everything you possibly could do to enhance your skills (before anyone says anything, yes I know this isn't the best way to go about it, thats not the point)

If you were to dedicate your life to mastering the art of seduction as it were how would you go about it? What would you do each day? I'm not interested in the the type of person you should be, or the attitudes you should have. Just the things you can do in time and space with the opposite sex.

There are people here who have reached this point, think back what did you do? What made you change to the person who you are now? The people who aren't there yet, what do you think you must do?

Give me ideas. I expect answers from everyone.

[daleinthedark]

I guess for me I would work on my inner game, becoming so comfortable with myself and my style deep down to my very soul; knowing that I am the man and deserving of the world not being outcome dependent. I would guess this is achieved by rock stars etc by them being so damn right at peace with their mastery of their art.

At the same time working on my body language so that I could project my inner self outwards in a whole bunch of don't give a shit, mac-daddy, do-what-i-want aura which when I can give off something similar works better than any opener, routing or story.

[Darood]

Originally Posted by kowalski

Actually become a rock star.

Not joking, that is the only way to get laid like a rock star. Get rich and famous.


Peace,

kowalski

That would first involve the desire and drive to become a rock star. I'm not having any of that. Be practical, what would it take for the average dude to have sexual abundance?

Thanks anyway Adam.

[PostScript]

I'm still not sure I fully understand the terms of the question, but I'd be looking at structure, macro not micro. So that would mean location, profession, social circle...yadda yadda. That what you mean?

PS

[Darood]

Originally Posted by daleinthedark

I guess for me I would work on my inner game, becoming so comfortable with myself and my style deep down to my very soul; knowing that I am the man and deserving of the world not being outcome dependent. I would guess this is achieved by rock stars etc by them being so damn right at peace with their mastery of their art.

At the same time working on my body language so that I could project my inner self outwards in a whole bunch of don't give a shit, mac-daddy, do-what-i-want aura which when I can give off something similar works better than any opener, routing or story.

Not good enough. What would you have to do to work on your inner game? What would it involve? what would you have to do not to be outcome dependent?

What exercises can you do to improve your body language?

if you have vague plans you get vague results.

[Darood]

Originally Posted by PostScript

I'm still not sure I fully understand the terms of the question, but I'd be looking at structure, macro not micro. So that would mean location, profession, social circle...yadda yadda. That what you mean?

PS

Yes, I'm talking external. Do A because it will improve B giving you better skill/ knowledge doing A or C in the future.

[PostScript]

Originally Posted by Darood

Yes, I'm talking external. Do A because it will improve B giving you better skill/ knowledge doing A or C in the future.

OK, in which case I stand by the structural elements, for reasons of greater abundance and the benefits both inner and outer that you will be aware of.

On a more "micro" note, first thing that springs to mind is: travel. For me, I'm a bit too analytical, so to rob myself of that with language and cultural issues would force me to develop simpler, more powerful communication. Moreover, it's something I feel I've missed out on anyway, having gone into business when young...I don't want to wait till I'm a knackered old git before I can see the world.

I'd also make a greater commitment to meditation, specifically for reasons of state management and projection, which is my current focus. I still struggle with meditation despite having had a supposed enlightenment experience, every now and agin I'll sit and stumble into something that afterwards I feel much better for, but more often than not it just seems like bathing/drowning in all my rambling thoughts. The truth is that the reason I struggle is that I don't do it enough to calibrate and learn what works for me, so that's what I would and should change.

I'm sure there are hundreds of things we could all come up with, but for the sake of brevity those would be my priorities.

PS

[maestro]

Originally Posted by Darood

Be practical, what would it take for the average dude to have sexual abundance?

Hookers?

I dunno.... go out every day/night, chat up every decent looking bird you see, and not give a fuck what anyone else thinks of you?

[scamp]

My Answer = Complete Sexual confidence

Have been thinking about this a bit and if you just know that you are going to absolutely rinse it and that you can give absolutely any girl the most amazing time of her life.

Are you going to get AA?
Are you going to give a shit if you get rejected?
Is any girl going to be out of your league?
Will you give a fuck?

How am I going to get there?
Well I’m not naturally a confident person, but I’m concentrating my thoughts on the one thing that I am a cocky Mo Fo at and working out how I got there.

Pool, you know table in a boozer, pikey’s snooker, whatever.

I just am extremely confident at it

I go into any match, with any person knowing I am going to win.
You know what?
I do win, pretty much always.
I must have lost a few times but I've just refused to let it affect the knowledge that I will win.

If the subject is brought up I just say something along the lines of

“Look, if we play pool, we will fall out”

Or

“Yeah, I’m very good”

And I say it completely straight faced and matter-of-fact. Anyone who knows me will say this is totally out of character, normally ridiculously modest and self effacing.

And then we'll go and play and I'll win, or (and this happens surprisingly often) the person who brought it up just doesn't want to even play me.

WTF?!

Where did this confidence come from?

It started when I was a kid and used to play snooker with my older Bro, Dad and Grandad. Basically you only got very few visits to the table so you had to make them count and I was sooo hungry to stay on that damn table as long as possible, I just got good.

(and yes I’m aware how cocky I sound)

And yeah I’m going to admit on this forum, my sexual confidence ain’t great. My last LTR was a sexual disaster (for reasons I don’t want to go into).

How am I going to improve?
Get in shape – Check
Eat well – Check (ish)
Do the stuff I enjoy
Have an attractive lifestyle
Chat up girls, occasionally pull one re-build my sexual confidence bit by bit.

Scamp
(Great thought-provoking post Darood)

[Darood]

Originally Posted by kowalski

OK, had misread it.


It doesn't work like that. The average guy doesn't live in sexual abundance. If he wants to live in sexual abundance and takes action to become that and achieves it, that can only be by ceasing to be the average guy and becoming something else.

Maybe I'm still not getting it.


Peace,

kowalski

My question is with what actions realistically would it take to achieve that.

With what act of will does so enable the transformation?