So, any tips on proper social phobia? Would be grateful, as I’m completely fucking lost! Shrink was overpaid and useless, possibly a little nuts himself. Pickup would seem to have the answers, but all the theory I’ve read is not helping me make behavioural change. It’s like this nebulous wall of fear in my way, which rationally is ridiculous. Pisses me off, as I could be good if I could break the initial phobia, but can't wrap my head around it.

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Define you personal experience of Social Phobia

It's all well and good reading theory, but you need to get out there and smash through those barriers to break the fear.

If you want some no-nonsense theory Pickup stuff, check out Natural Tim or Tyler Durden's Blueprint.

feel the fear and do it anyway. most people are nervous first time they drive a car.

Pickup isnt the answer to your social phobia. Pickup is just a tool, a very awesome tool. The answer is within you, within your grasp as long as you willing to make the decision to change it. To get out of your comfort zone. To go out with like-minded people (PUA) and be sociable. Natural Tim's flawless material is a good start. And move on to the Blueprint. But ultimately, you can memorise every PU materials in the world, every opener, etc but if you dont make the decision, dont make the effort, dont get out of your comfort zone, you will never overcome your social phobia. Good luck!

...fear, followed by an automatic and entrenched response to avoid the situation at all costs, and weave whatever web of excuses to get me out of it whilst saving face. Goes deep back to childhood, I suppose there was an original trigger event but I can't remember it. Yet in a work context, I live in a very different frame with much confidence. It's specifically my social peer group and women in particular where I revert to negative patterns.

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What effort am I making? I suppose I'm looking for a way to get my state under control, so I can dip into pickup without making an utter cunt of myself in public! Maybe that's just an excuse and I must endure it at first. I get little looks all the time from girls when I'm out and about, when I'm in state, but just a look is enough to make me look away and presto, I'm back to feeling like a pussy again. A baptism of fire with bootcamps and such would probably shake it out of me I imagine. All I need is to be able to transfer the way I feel in a work environment, to the way I feel in a social environment, and I'd progress by leaps and bounds.

Hey I have quite bad anxiety and I'm hidding it head on. I'm heading out tonight again with another guy off here. I suggest you try the same.

Then Direct Access if you are over 21 to ride anything!
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