the whole control thing is why i dont do relationships... i cant be assed controling nobody...

i would enjoy a balanced relationship. they just dont happen... so i avoid them like th plague

I speculate that u r more attracted to this bird because of the view u have that she is being mistreated. That sense of wanting to protect a bird can add to the attraction, in my exp.

Completely valid points, I will look at moving out. If he wants to make her cry all the time as part of their semi but not dangerously abusive relationship I should sort my shit out and not be involved with it. Its not really a true infatuation I just have attraction when its technically not appropraite.

Still think I observed an uncomfortable but important psychological factoid yesterday. I know Mystery talks/jokes about using dog training techniques. It works on people aswell. Verbal push pull.

Haha! I saw a trailer for that show last night. The theme seems to be - guy (tool) cheats on girlfriend he doesn't quite love, guy goes to the army for 2 weeks, then has an emphiphany and realises how much he loves her. A right royal tear jerker.

Actually not quite. Guys who are tools for various reasons (cheating, anger, vanity, lazy etc) think they're competing for Britain's Ultimate Lad before realising they've been stitched up. Then, they're taught be be better boyfriends. Some go mental. It's actually proper funny. 10pm, Mondays, E4.

'Britain's ultimate lad'. What a title to hold.

Tool Academy... Straight after (fucking) Glee. God damn I hate TV!

Some people might say I'm a c*nt for posting this but they'd be wrong. This is a very interesting animal psychology video. This relates to and resolves the thread because it covers 'how to lead and punish bad behaviour without pain'. So my conclusion is that you can dictate desired behaviours, without psychologically breaking the subject, through proper reinforcement and reward. In another video he states that he uses similar reward training techniques on his kids to teach them to behave. Basically it comes down to an awareness of how your actions are learnt by the subject brain which is constantly absorbing all available information like a big sponge. Thats what brains do. enjoy;



In pickup this might be conciously rewarding the girl with compliment or teasing or kino when she gives you attention IOIs, which we all do to some degree already. Also, plowing. (Indifferently contuing your frame with authority despite shit tests). Timing and consistency are key. Do not reward bad behaviour like trying to leave, insults, attention loss, ... spitting, rubbing shit everywhere, getting really close to you and then shouting in your ear, head patting.

You could always get revenge by nicking his gf.

Seriously though, push pull is good but there should be a line in the sand. Head wrecking is a no no in my book. Learn about it yes, but only so you can tell when some gal is trying to pull it on you so you can turn around and tell her exactly where to get off. There are plenty of women out there where there can be mutual respect without either side needing to power trip the other.