The general course of things

[bushido]

So was wondering what your general course of meeting a girl consists of as in, you meet a girl, you meet up with her for a date, and after 3 or so dates you decide you like her a lot and suggest that you two go out officially..

I have found that after meeting a girl for over 3 dates, she starts to wonder "weres this going", if you dont ask her out, then she thinks to herself either, he doesnt like me and is just seeing me because he is 1. a player. 2. has nothing else going on and might as well meet me.

or she might believe that you dont have the balls to ask her out, and due to the social construct that girls have its very unlikely they will ask you out..

So its a confusing thing to me, would you guys for example meet a girl, date her, sleep with her and then move onto another girl? would you say your not looking for a relationship at any time or just not say?

Just thinking to myself if i meet up with a girl for a few dates whether to say, i like meeting up with you but not looking for a serious relationship just to let you know but still want to keep meeting you.. how u reckon that would go down?

Whats your general course of action that you take after meeting a girl?

[Rabbid]

Mystery talks about this, stop dating he says. If you want to end up in friends zone, date. If you want to actually have a relationship, start just hanging out a couple times but building up the ladder. So touching early and escalating.

Dating is far more formal which means you have to go through this process and it costs you money etc and you might not have even touched the girl before you go to kiss her on date 3. No wonder its uncomfortable.

Mystery also talks about just becuase you've slept with someone early doesn't rule out the chance for relationship, but if your in friends zone it pretty much does.

[Loke]

This is actually some very good points. Stop doing formal dates. My tactic is to just merge social circles. My dates is bringing the girl along to gigs and other stuff I do with my friends. Works wonders for me. I've been on 2 dinner dates with my current girlfriend...in 4 months.

[nova]

I wouldn't talk about the formalities of a relationships after 3 dates. That wouldn't even feature in my mind as it's far too early to say if I'd like the girl enough to do this. Just let things take their course and be honest about your intentions. Girls can try and rush these things sometimes and quiz you early doors about your intentions, stand by these intentions. Don't corner yourself just to get some sex (something I used to do).