Arranging dates after # close
 

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Mystery came up with a good one.

Stoke her up with some txt/chat flirting (mucho importanto) and then tell her what you're doing i.e going town to buy some sports gear or whatever (calibrate to her) and ask if she wants to come along. If she's stoked, it's fun and interesting just to be with you.

Yes? Aw yeah girl, do your thing together and take her some place after.

No? S'aight, you're doing something anyways.

Just means you're not left holding the invite if she's making excuses.

Game On.

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LOL golden. In my opinion making sure you’re comfortable where ever the meet is important so choose a place you accustomed to.

Adam , i really hope you mean you already met her in a club , she gave you her name , you facebooked her and THEN got her number . Obviously you didn't just add her on facebook and get her number over the internet ryte , nah you wouldn't do that especially from all the times you've posted and the posts you've read . If it is a facebook over the net pull , your going to have to build more comfort than usual before arranging a date and make the place public and something in the open as this will make her more likely to accept

I do not agree with K on this one.

IMO, I think that the guy needs to spend some time with her to build that connection and attraction. If he makes it obvious what he is after then it could frighten his prey away.

By luring the chick in he has the opportunity to control her emotions right into the bedroom. by taking her onto an emotional roller coaster she will WANT to f -close and he will be in driving seat.

If the attraction is not yet there then ending this by no making a "date" or seeing her again, kills a potential opportunity.

What do others think of this?

Personally, I don't think there is right or wrong on this issue. I must admit that the last two girls I slept this month are girls I communicate via texts and emails over a period of two months, this allowed the attractions to be built and for the girls to be comfortable with me. They are what I call a back burner. But from the very beginning, I make my Statements of Intentions (SOIs) clear. And on both occassions, it was evening Day-1 dates and I made it clear that they could stay at mine after. I think they got the message ;-)

I have quite a few back burners to fill my needs until I achieve an f-close in one night. I like to be in the same shoes like some of the guys in this forum but my journey is progressing slowly. Small baby steps!!

And Im reading loads at the moment. Gunwitch method caught my attention. That guy is awesome. And I heard a lot about "The Power of Now - Eckhart Tolle". Just downloaded the audio and pdf book this morning. Cant wait to start reading it tonight. Doing sessions with an Alexander Technique Instructor (Thanks K) to improve with my posture, body language and subsequently build my confidence. So onwards and upwards...!

Much Success!!

Interesting thoughts K. I think that we are broadly in agreement.

I would also like to play the game that you play but I must admit that I am no good at it.

Like most AFCs I played the nice guy game and got a few crumbs.

Recently, I have upped my game a bit but I still play a different game from you. A conversion rate of numbers to lays of 80% is impressive, very impressive. However, as you say yourself you are probably allowing some opportunities to slip away. That is not necessarily a bad thing, after all there are only 24 hours in the day and 7 days a week and we have a lot of other stuff to do in this time as well as getting lays. So if a few fish get away then as long as you are not going hungry then it really is their loss not yours.

I think your advice is spot on for night game in the environment you mentioned. Day game has some common elements to night game but it is a very different game. For one there is the issue of logistics.

I tend to start with day game and then move on into the night time situation for the f -close.

I would still stick by my earlier advice to the OP.

btw what are booty calls?

booty call - cool.

I forgot to mention in my last post that I actually love all this structure and strategy to gaming. I mean, for me, it is not just about the lays. I love the strategy, the theory, the analysis etc etc. It really gets my pulse racing learning about all this stuff and the pot of gold at the end are the lays which do happen.

I love being able to control myself when there are such juicy carrots dangled in front of me. One of the things I wanted to conquer with game was my own emotions. I want to be able to control the excitement and the thrill of getting laid and be able to switch it on and off at MY will and not be at the whim of HB 9s & HB 10s.

Ok whilst the end result is an f-close I love everything that leads up to the f-close from opening onwards. Football is about scoring goals but a game with just penalties is boring!

There are times though I wish I had a harem and had it on tap....

Hey guys,

I have a Nice problem now, so i'm in a completly new world which i havent done any reading about at all, actually have a number and we've texted just a couple of times, just playful shit. Is there any good books / video's to help break down what's a good progression for texting and then onto phone call for a meet up???

cheers

Retro

I can already tell you're a hero :D

Well it's quite good to have a fuck buddy but you probably have more of a desire to meet women, whereas I sometimes find myself not being too bothered about meeting new girls because I know I can get regular sex. This can be good too because hopefully I don't come across as needy.

He wants sluts basically ;)

That text things pretty handy K there seem to be a lot of people asking for stuff on text game but most pu programs don't cover it.

But I seem to remember I got to 11 out of 21 in table tennis which is more than a quarter more like a 3rd! and it was my first time, yes that's right you popped my cherry on the table tennis table.

I'll 2nd that.. this is something i need to start to work on now :)

Guy's i need to get your opinion on something (that should get your attention, works in the field :-) ) LOL....

No on a serious note, i really do. Can everyone post just the basic grounds on how they operate once they have a number, as i really don't have a clue and i can't find anything on the old tinterweb on just basic rules so i can use that as i stamp out pattern until i learn the best way forward? I'm not after content, just basic structure of the interaction.

So all i'm after is:

1) how soon after getting a number do you text (not bothered about the content)?
2) When you want to ask for a meet up (or date, day x or what ever you want call it), do you do it via text or do you call her?
3) If you call her for a meet up, how long do you leave it after the initial number close and how long do you leave it after your last text?

So this is where i'm at (just to put a bit of flesh around it).
I get my 1st number close on Saturday night.
Text her Sunday:
me: I totally kicked your ass at thumb war last night missy :-)
HB: As if you did! :-)
me: You were good but you got whooped! We should just go out anf hustle people at thumb war war for free drinks, we'd rock!
HB (late after i went to bed): Ha ha! Hustle with thumb wars? That's an awesome idea. Nobody'd expect that!
me (day after): Yeah, and you could unleash you sign language skills so no one would know what's going on! We've got this sorted ;-)

And that's where we are up to, no text back as yet. So i'm wondering do i just wait till later in the week and call her and ask her for a date next week, do i text etc etc. Hence why i want just a general frame work to stamp out time and time again (with my own content), untill i learn for myself what works and what doesn't.

So would love to hear from all of you (K, Jaz, Swype, Darood, Madforit, Anthony), just to see what you all do, to see if there is any common ground.

Cheers guys

Retro

i love how you leave me out cheers retro

Not intentional Jynxy..I actually missed Adam out of that list as well (just spotted it now, opps) Well what's your game? how do you do it? :biggthumpup:

And he left me out...ne'er mind!
This is my take on the matter:

You have started well with the texts, reminding her who you were, the thumb fight, sign language, slight negging etc etc. If she hasnt texted you back within two days, text her again but dont mention to her about the thumb fight anymore. She probably think you got nothing else interesting to say...! Come up with something completely random to get the texting going again. SOmeone posted this text a while back "e.g. white top or black top". Or a few weeks ago when the weather was scotching I texted this HB "trainers, sandals or flip flops?" and she would immediately reply "flip flops, why?" Then you explain why and start the textin going again.."hows you been", "havent heard from you since the last text", fancy going for a drink on Saturday"...I think you get my drift.

Anyway, thats me and my text game. I hardly ever speak on the phone. Just text, arrange a date, meet up and have a good sexy time..!

Does it work? Well, it works for me! Each to its own..!

Much Success....

This thread is hotting up nicely. I’m glad I made it onto ‘the list’ – but last place? ;)

For me, text game is just a game to get into actual interaction - I know that my actual real life game on day twos etc is good, so I just want to make that happen. I personally would have cut the thumb war thread off before you did, and perhaps just not replied for a while - I prefer to end the interaction myself, rather than have her do it.

My text game is probably pretty different to many people on here - I calibrate it based on the girls I'm into and what I want. I don't go sexual in texts.

After meeting, I tend to text the next day, even make it the evening perhaps.

Often I go for friendly texts which show my interests. I don't have any formulas or set texts I send out, just usually expressing what it was like to meet them, something about the night or them, and a few other things. I often throw in a sentence or two about what I'm doing - make sure this is reflective of my qualities as a person (eg, if in a day I wank, watch Tv, go to the gym, and make some music, you can guess which ones go in a text). I also throw in a smiley face :)

For the invite, I like low risk day twos – coffee, checking out some art, something that will take a few hours perhaps at a maximum. Why would I want to spend an entire day and evening with a girl I hardly know, and hardly know I like? I wouldn’t, and I guess that women – generally more vulnerable– feel the same.

“[random stuff] gonna check out some art for a few hours on Saturday if you fancy it, no worries if not :)” with some other bits, is usually good for me. This is not a question, it is an invitation to something cool that you are doing – an invitation to your reality, your world! I would stay clear of questions.

If the text interaction fades I will send an invite like that out anyways.

I want to move to phone game eventually (if the girls speak good enough English).


Anthony

Top top stuff guys, thanks for your input. Sorry to miss you out Legend, just rattled some people down on the post, but i did say everyone before it;-). Some nice common theme's in there too which will give me (and anyone else in the same situation) some good stuff to get started by. Looking forward to this weekend to get some more numbers and start doing this stuff on mass :-)

Retro