Play it cool... play it sooo cool that she doesn't even know and it never happens.

If it's you that has to initiate every interaction with her, and she has accused you of moidering her, then it sounds like she isn't interested in anything more happening between you two. So I would definitely leave it, draw a line underneath it, and look to meet other women. If you see her out, you can be polite but I wouldn't pay her much attention.

I said if your always initiating convos and shes never starting convos with you, you may seem lower in value! I know that initiating a convo in itself isn't low value...we all have to initiate convos with all the girls we end up picking up!!!

A simple answer to your query - meet women you want to sleep with / date / have relationships. And of course of a preferable age to your tastes. You say yourself she's the wrong age, so why pursue it?!

There's a shed load out there, no need to single out one girl and keep pestering her.

I think the illusion of value is only something you should care about when you're still at attraction. Once you know someone and they know you perhaps being just genuine with what you want might get you somewhere.

But at the sametime there are better times and ways to do it that will not making into someone who just comes across needy.

Needy is desperate and is thus seen as pretty low value. Going after what u want because you can, can be attractive. Being concerned with looking low value can stop you getting anything whatsoever.