I know they are obvious, but being honest, how many of these do you actually adhere to?


1. Eat properly. You are what you eat, there are countless websites devoted to healthy eating, develop a balanced eating plan and stick to it.

2. Excercise. Healthy body healthy mind, we all know the benefits, being fitter, happier and looking more appealing to women etc. Take up a sport, it will increase your social circle, make you more interesting and fill you with genuine confidence.

3. No drugs. People who take drugs often claim they feel better, are more creative and better able to cope with life, to everyone else though they are just people on drugs. Too weak to cope with reality. I include alcohol here, although a little is no bad thing. We all know the difference between a glass of wine with dinner and 8 pints down the local every other night.

4. Enjoy your work. We spend a massive amount of our precious time at work, too much if you ask me, so it is insane to remain in a job that makes you unhappy. Easier said than done I know, but think about it.

5. Assume that everyone you meet in life is a good person. Or treat others as you would have them treat you. If you don't understand why this is important you may be a sociopath.

6. Step out of your comfort zone at every opportunity. Of course I mean approaching women, but don't limit it to that, use your imagination.

7. Keep a journal. And be honest with yourself, this is an ancient and proven way of keeping a mind focused on the bigger picture, and as a way to get to know and understand yourself on a deeper level.

8. Sleep well. A regular bedtime, 7-8 hours a night. No stimulants (caffiene, sugar etc) within 5 hours of bedtime. Again, there are mountains of evidence out there which prove why this is so Important to health, physical and mental.
Power naps throughout the day are also of huge benefit.

9. Break habits. Notice that you take the same route to work each day? Whenever you spot yourself falling into a pattern, shake it up a bit.

10. Build up your brain. The brain is the key to seduction, use it, push it as often as you can. Learn chess, read, even some computer games can help. Also, a useful habit I picked up, whenever I hear or read a word I don't understand I make a point of looking it up, words are the tools for expressing our thoughts, it is not possible to have too great a vocabulary.

11. Focus on the positives. This doesn't mean ignore any bad things that come your way, just don't waste the time between bad things happening by worrying about what the next bad thing may be. Deal with the bad stuff when it comes, learn from it, become stronger/wiser and face the future head on.

12. Enjoy downtime. Make time for yourself.

13. Avoid too much TV. Again, google it, there are some very disturbing conclusions being drawn about the effects of too much TV on the human mind.

There are others, but if you incorporate some of the above into your daily life you will feel like a different person.

Id say I adhere to 1,2,4,10,11,12,13

3. I drink on weekends but not too much, I am trying to not drink as much to help with PU. Once I nail sober PU I dont expect the need to ever drink again!

5. I'm not sure, I think I assume the best in people.

6,7,9. I have recently started trying to do these.

8. I dont get my 8 hours the night before work often. Too many cups of tea before bed!

How about you trickster?

They are all habits I have aquired over a number of years. I like the occasional take away, and once in a blue moon I drink to excess, but I feel these 'lapses' only serve to reinforce my determination.

The hardest for me was loving my job, so I took a risk and switched careers, something I cannot recommend enough to anyone feeling bored or uninspired at work.

As for assuming that everyone I meet is a good person, I didn't really make it clear what I meant, of course there are bad people out there, and when I spot them I take note and avoid them in future.
I find that treating people in this way always elicits a positive response, and serves all kinds of purposes, it helps if bad people believe that you think they are good inside.

Most of them are fair game, but there are one or two I'd take issue with.

1. Eat properly - I actually align myself with this, but disagree that it is a key stepping stone on the road to pulling girls. You think a girl is going to think "god, the fact he only eats green salads and rare meat really turns me on"? Forget it. Eat what you like.

2. Exercise - Not something I'm fond of - I only run if I'm being chased. Maybe I'll grow into a healthy lifestyle and I'll probably be the better for it, but I'll be damned if I do it for the benefit of a random whore.

3. No drugs - Are you fucking serious? Honestly Trickster, this sounds like the sort of attitude appropriated by someone who has no experience with drugs whatsoever. As someone in the opposite camp, I can say that (within reason) taking drugs occasionally is a positive experience for a person, and definitely doesn't decrease one's chances of pulling. In fact it almost certainly increases them - alcohol alone is probably responsible for about 90% of one night stands. Reality is for people too weak to cope with drugs.

5. Assume everyone you meet is a good person - What, even the meathead douchebag in a club eyeballing every other guy suspiciously? Evolution has given us social intuition for a reason - so we can sort of tell who's safe and who's not. It's been developed over millions of years - listen to it. To be fair to you, I think you mean "assume everyone you want to talk to is friendly" - otherwise you'd never approach anyone.

Most of the rest are fine, but even then I'd make exception to living your life by all these "rules of a successful/happy life". It's better, surely, to do things you enjoy and go around being authentic and awesome than adhering to a load of "rules"?

All fair points, allow me to tackle them one by one.

1. Eat properly. This has nothing to do with impressing girls, this is solely about giving your body and mind the quality fuel and material they need to function at an optimum level, this in turn helps with all aspects of life.

2. Excercise. Again, I excercise for myself, the fitter I am, the better equiped to cope with life in general, and the better I feel. Although a true alpha shouldn't care what he looks like, he should care that his physical condition is the most glaring manifestation of his status.

3. No drugs. I stand by what I said, I have taken drugs of all kinds all over the world, Mescalin, ket, pills, countless strains of skunk, crack, charlie and skag. I enjoyed them all and have no regrets, I just notice how much sharper and more focused I am when clean.

5. I think we agree here.

I incorporate all these habits because I enjoy them. Each one benefits me in a direct way, and by proxy have helped to improve my success with women, I don't have all the answers, but I have found some, they work for me.

I call them foundation stones, because that is what they are, they are not stepping stones to seduction, but they will help form a stable platform on which to build whatever existence you may desire.

u missed wankin off... coz otherwise im gonna score 0

None of this is about being 'good' or increasing lifespan at the expense of life quality. Quite the opposite. In fact it is exactly about 'putting more life in my years'. If as a side effect I live a little longer, sweet.

None of this stuff gets in the way of my life, none of them require a great deal of time, just discipline.

I used to have a lot of bad habits, I still have a few, but these good habits I've worked hard to instill have massively increased both my quality of life, and my enjoyment of it. The difference between my life now and my life before is something that still astonishes me, and I feel there is still room for improvement.

The idea that giving yourself the best possible chance of succeeding, by working on yourself is somehow.... a negative thing entirely escapes me.

The point I (and I think Kowalski) am/are trying to make is that this idea of eating healthily, going to the gym, abstaining from drugs, not watching telly etc is one way of doing things. It might work for you, and many others, and good luck to you, but for someone like me, to whom going for a run is only marginally more appealing than being buried alive, it would not work.

There is no "one, definitive way" to live a happy life. Everyone is different and likes different things, so whilst I might like nothing more than an evening in front of Celebrity Coach Trip, you might find going to the gym and getting your sweat on infinitely more fulfilling. Hell, some men take enjoyment from looking at other men's bottoms, and good luck to them. The trick is finding a lifestyle which you enjoy, not one which other people tell you to live.

I entirely agree, but why are you arguing against a point I havent made?
Help me understand.

Where exactly have I said there is ''one, definitive way'' to live a happy life? (I notice quotation marks). I only listed the things that I have noticed help me, I am entirely aware that everyone is different and will find for themselves what it is that helps them to make any changes they may be seeking.

I love to watch TV, I just love other stuff more.

As for going to a gym, it's been years, excercise comes with living an active life, I play polo, swim, and have taken up archery (great for posture by the way, in 3 months I've gained half an inch in height). I walk the short trips where I once drove/took a bus, and my work involves strenuous manual labour which helps. Eating properly of course, gives me the energy to be able to live this active life.

And in my opinion, living an active, interesting life will do more for your self esteem, your social life and your attractiveness to quality females than anything else, except maybe winning the lottery or becoming a rock/movie star etc. It has the added bonus of being attainable immediately.

My point is, a lot of guys are visiting these forums looking for answers, and I have found some that actually work. They are not new, in fact most of them are simple common sense, but knowing something and doing it are two very different things.

And as for looking at other mens bottoms? I can only wonder where that troubled thought emerged from.

id rather kill myself