Hey Everyone,

I'm new here but have been lurking around a bit, I've always kinda thought myself as a bit of a natural but have waves of confidence that come and go and my entire game is dependant on this and but starting to realise I have a lot of unleashed potential and could be a lot, lot better.
So I reread a lot a material recently as I've been single too long and had a pretty dry 6 months and really wanna get my mojo back and not need any Dutch courage to pick up.

So I thought a good start would be to try online game and come across a girl on Okcupid who's pretty much my type and sent my first message ect and got a meeting on Monday. I tried to keep the interaction away from sex (is creepy on dating sites) and built comfort, made her qualify herself to my high standards, negged a lot, DHV'd quite heavily ect ect.

She openly states on her profile that she likes sex and she's bi and I recently found out she's in an open relationship and the rules are she can have sex, friendship but no romance, also I have "I'm looking for friends" on mine which she asked about and I told her I'm open to other stuff ect but put that to keep away the mentals. (this all happened in under a week btw).

What I need advice on is my "date" as it were. I'm torn between going caveman and making my intentions of regular casual sex clear from the very start (have never tried this before, not sure if I got the balls or it really suits me), or just building with Kino and try and make it happen with natural game and a few pre-prepared bits and pieces. My biggest weakness's are remembering good body language and eye contact and I can't help but be nice and polite sometimes (I'm working on these), but without being too big headed I'm complimented on my looks and style a lot and have a cool business and lots of good stories, experience, hobbies and general chat. Just worried I don't escalate this quick enough and end up falling into the friend zone,

Views and opinions appreciated,

Breaker

My only advise would be to stop using dating sites. Get your ass into gear and start chatting up girls YOU like, and stop relying on girls that like the look of you or your business.

So I met this girl, she was quite cute, a bit snobby and intellectual but fairly tidy. I was treating this as an experiment to gage where I'm at and see what I really need to work on and have come up with the following:

I build comfort and demonstrate value well. Our conversation was "nice". That was the problem I guess. I think for a first meeting of a few hours and the circumstances and things we talked about I didn't really feel like it was going anywhere sexually. From what knowledge I have, I guess this is my biggest hurdle, presenting a strong frame which offers sexuality and cheekiness.This isn't something I do naturally and I guess is something I need to work on a lot. Kino was pretty much non-existant until I pecked her the cheek to say goodbye lol. This was due to logistics of being across the table from each other and my nerves telling me it might come across as a unnatural.

Eye Contact, this is something I've always been terrible at (never really understood the importance of it), but to work on it throughout the day I consciously made eye contact with everyone I walked past ect until they broke it. This made me realise actually how many people are scared of eye contact and try and avoid it in this country, not one person was able to match me more than a few seconds. Anyway I made a big effort with her this and it was definitely an improvement and helped.

I was very good at not showing any neediness and made myself seem like someone who needs a girl to qualify to get with me. I think goes back to my problem though, I sometimes confuse flirting with neediness. Anyway she said we should meet for another drink next week which seems fairly positive and I take as an IOI and now that comfort has been built I feel in a stronger position to attempt escalating and attempting kino(easily my biggest sticking points, just not very natural to me). So I might meet her again, I might not we'll see.

Off topic I was asked today to model fully nude for a friends student photography show. I'm completley torn by the idea, In some senses I think it will help my confidence, let a shit load of hot photography students see me naked, think about me sexually and see that I'm open and comfortable with nakedness. On the other hand I'm no king kong, but fairly happy with my size (although could easily be next to another guy with a bigger manhood), not sure if want get naked in front of my ex-house mates missus and wondering if it could come back to haunt me in the future. What would you do?

Much Love

Do it. Yes all those things you're worried about will probably happen, but who gives a fuck, its an interesting experience.

Not that it matters what I say, its not as if you don't have the confidence to make decisions for yourself.

do stuff that you're frightened of and become a superhuman