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Originally Posted by maestro
And, if after a certain length of time you're not getting the women that you want, then surely it is inevitable that frustration and dissapointment will creep, and eat away at your indifferent attitude. This will cause problems.
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This has resonance for me. At the moment, I'm going through a dry spell, trying to get back into my game, but all the time struggling. Part of the problem is, as soon as there is an attractive girl around, I can't think of anything other than 'is she responding to me? What can I do to attract her? What can I say to her next?', and so on.
Last night this was exemplified. I was out with a few people from work (not my cup of tea for company, but there you go), and there were 3 or 4 very pretty girls there as well. All I could think about was 'are they talking to me? Are they looking at me?' and so on. I'm certain after a while they sensed it (perhaps not even after a while), and that neediness is a sure fire way to put a girl off.
But then if I go to the other end of the spectrum, where I don't show neediness, I end up not showing anything, no intent or interest, and failing to take any action whatsoever.
Its a vicious circle that I just can't find the right balance too.