It's like this...

Girl from work(30 with 2 kids) flirts outrageously. Moved things along nicely, been round hers, heavy flirting BUT can't bring myself to go in for the close incase of failure. Not too worried about rejection, you win some, you lose some, right? Trouble is work would be terrible if people found out I'd tried to get on that. Failure is not an option.

Going back to hers in a few days for the evening, want to be prepared.

Any ideas on how to get the conformation she wants to take it to the bedroom without looking like a cock. Ideally how to get her to make the move.

What approach should I take? How can I up the body contact without it being a blatant 'move'.

Comments please...

C

She wont make a move on you bud. She'll show you signs, but wont make the move. Shes a chick, she don't need to do that. How long you known the girl. Does she consider you a FRIEND that just hangs out now hmm? Flirting? Petting? Teasing? You do alot of this. By petting i mean kino...

As to a way into taking things to the bedroom? Ask for a tour of the house if she hasnt already given you one at some point during the night. After you have teased her, used lots of kino etc. She'll be more than happy to show you her gaff. Once you get to her room say some shit like "Do you have one of those unbelieveably stupidly comfy beds that all girls seem to have?" And to the bed you go...

There has always been a lot of flirting, touching, and rarely does a convo goes by that doesn't include sex somehow. But this might be because she comfortable with me, it might be because she's gagging for it. I don't expect her to make the move but make it clear enough that she wants me to.

I don't want a relationship with her, just fun, which is why I'd be labeled a sleeze at work if it went wrong.

Maybe I should man up and go for it.

Do it. Unless your embarressed what others will think of you at work?

If she's inviting you round for the eve, why not? Sex talk is always good but again can come across as a comfort thing. But it makes her think about sex, so can be used to your advantage.

Shes inviting you round, so she is interested in you to some degree, start talking about kissing, bad experiances from the past of yours and then boast about how good of a kisser you are.

see if she bites and wants to try and take it from there, remember you have to be confident about it

As garcia said: Ask her how a good a kisser she is. Majority says they are very good. And then ask her to prove and show it to you. If she isnt interested in sleeping with you, she would say NO, then you know your answer then. And if it's on, take it from there and escalate....! I wont worry about you being a sleaze bag at work. She has to live with it too, remember!

You sound like you are limiting yourself to one girl. What makes her so special that you are willing to risk what people think of you at work (something you value) and get into something with a woman with 2 kids. Is this something you genuinely want? Careful how you lead her on if you're only after a f*ck buddy.

Garcia, Legend, sound advice, thanks - will try and put that to work. (i am a great kisser )

Nova, she is not the only girl, just the one i want at the moment, and i am willing to risk the work thing as she is a decent girl, makes me laugh almost as much as i do her. It is clear that a relationship isnt an option, most convos are about sex so as long as that stays as it is, i think things should be golden. She doesnt seem the type to be clingy either.

i have worked with her for a couple of years, her friend (who worked with us when i joined) said she wouldnt ever go for me....at the time i thought, great, mission accepted. but we moved teams and didnt work close together, out of sight out of mind, for a while at least, untill now.

After looking through some FR's, i want to get out there more, this girl is not the be all and end all, but the begining.

Monday night cant come round quick enough...

So stop waiting for Monday night to potentially fuck up your relationships in work, and get out tonight, tomorrow night, Saturday night, and find new girls to want.

Otherwise you'll go round to hers on Monday all excited, you'll be all nervous, and then... You might just fail to take action because I still think you haven't resolved the issue you can here with, which is how can you make a move without making a move.

Truth is there is no way to do that. So get out and find some girls you can make a move on.

This one is so right, get your mind away from clisng with her, and just think about CLOSING. i mean, if its got this far and you havent kissed, it sounds like an fz (probably not pua speak, but my wing uses it for friend zone) so play the games, use ways to get the kiss and for it to be playful, after you got one, more kino, and the second should be more serious, as for the bedroom, id say you should just spend a while downstairs drinking and kissing, then justsay something like 'so what, you keeping me on this sofa all night or what?' alternatively, get to the stage of kissing where the bed is just optional