When I was 19, I got this 29yo hb8 and it was ok until I was woken up with her kids at the bottom of the bed. I didn't even know she had them. My first instinct was to hide under the covers and that annoyed her.

The cow gave me crabs too!!

Never again.

I'd recommend a) making sure the kids are away and b) caution, because single mums are often desperate for love and don't get out too often. You may end up with a psychotic stalker, or maybe not.

You also need to ask yourself the question: Why is she single? Nutcase maybe?

As for ethics, this is one I feel strongly about.

Kids don't need to se a new 'uncle' every week. I remember the my bad feelings when my mum had blokes around.

When I split up with my wife, I gave her hell for introducing new people into my kids life. I said that if she wanted to party, then all she had to do was tel me an I'd gladly have them stay at my house.

Kids need a father figure, not lots of strangers, so ethically speaking, I think you have a duty to any child not to get into their life unless you intend to be a regular part of it. Period.

When a bloke (or woman) disappears it is tough on the little buggers. I won't let my kids meet new people unless I have known them for some time and trust them etc.

Good post Johnny

I have slept with quite a number of single mum and apart from one (even then she was a f buddy and I did grow fond of the little boy), I have never met any of the kids. It was never been an issue cos if you hit on the right woman, she would never want you to meet her kids in the first place. Just like you filter on the single women you want to sleep with, the same applies to single mum.

not for me to be honest - way too much baggage!

I've been with a couple of single mum's. First had a wha...1 yr old. I would go round to her fucking HUUUUGE ass house for weekends at a time (Her parents were loaded) and we would spend it fucking when we could. Other times playing with her little girl...She was cute. Got to a point where she wanted another kid and wanted me to be the father...Fuck that. Ended a week later, she then fucked a cabbie driver that took her home night after a night out and tried rubbing it in my face. Bless her...