Ok guys just wondering how you handle girls who self deprecate themselves, now if they are purposely saying something like "i look fat in this dress" hoping for someone to say" no no you look beautiful" in order to get reasurrance and an ego boost. If this was said by a very beautiful girl who clearly didnt look bad in the dress, i think most of us wud recognise that we shudnt validate her as we just seem like kiss asses or whatever. The problem is when girls who are not hb 10s start to state negative things about them, how to respond? for example a girl who im very into said last night, " no ones ever going to marry me" know i heard this and i was about to say something which didnt validate her, you know just agree with her statement and punish the behaviour of seeking validation. This is something i picked up from david d, but tbh i think like ALOT of the pu material, it only works on the hottest girls hb9/10s..

So i wasnt sure what to say whether to compliment her and say id marry you or dont worry youll find someone.

I ended up just not saying anythin in the end, i mean the way i looked at it was i will look like a kiss ass and show that im really interested in her or will look like a dick and make her feel bad.

This girl is a friend of mine for 4 years who i recently have got feelings for, so it does change things a bit in the way you might talk to her.

But its really difficult to know what to do when a girl starts saying negative things about herself, i mean what if the girl was a 6 or 7 if u agree with her statements shes going feel worse about herself surely and if u compliment her or validate her its giving her what she wants and might make u look of lower value?

any thoughts

Here is my response at the beginning of EVERY first date when a girl begins to do this..My exact words

"Ok lets just STOP for a min an get this out the way... you clearly wish to establish how bad u look, dont worry i noticed OK (SMILE) you look nice...

i want you to tell me how good you look... GO ON SAY I LOOK FABULOUS"

make her say it

she will love you for it... from then on she will be MASSIVELY comfortable with u

Quite like that Phil, nice way to get the shit test over with and at same time get lots of rapport and comfort

yes phil GREAT answer cheers for that bro