Ive been getting with a girl for around a month now and there has been a complete role reversal during the past week. At the start I was in control with her constantly texting me and asking my mates over Facebook what I thought of her. Now that I have started to get to like her, its like I have let my guard down.

I find that usually girls normally ask the question of where its going by now, however, she hasn’t. I don’t want to go out with her but I don’t want her getting with anyone else because of my ego, the fact that I don’t cheat on GF’s and I’m enjoying practicing pick up with the other Leeds guys.

She has a young child which means that we cant really go out on dates so our time together pretty much consists of us sitting at her house watching television. I suggest things to do but there’s always a reason that we cant do it. I feel really boring sometimes as I try to be unpredictable and find fun stuff to do but its hard when your stuck in the house. Also, her friend lives with her so its pretty much the three of us all the time. I want to be interesting and seem as though I’m a fun guy but we cant go out and do anything so I’m stuck.

One thing that bothers me is that she has a lot of guy friends and I don’t know her past. For all I know she could have other guys and the sudden role reversal could be due to some other guy.

So the questions are;

How can I make myself interesting when sat in a house. I have loads of little games that I play with mates, things like question games etc. but there’s only so many you can do before it gets weird.

How can I find out whether she’s getting with other guys and what she’s wanting our relationship without her thinking I’m either being too full on it leading onto a conversation where its pretty much we’re either going out or nothing.

I think that I will need to try to get back in the driving seat but how would I do this? Is it just a matter of going back to playing hard to get.

I know its very AFC but i feel like i need to know how its going from her perspective before i can decide how to progress.

Cakes: you can have them or you can eat them. If you're not willing to be in a relationship with her for the sake of meeting other girls it's really none of your business what she chooses to get up to in her own time.