Ok so I have number closed a couple of girls over the last couple of weeks and i need some serious help with 'text game'.

I believe that Texting is useless for chatting up girls. Its so impersonal but we all text these days. After some texting back and forth with one girl I decided that all the small talk was starting to bore me so I asked her. "so when are we going to hang out? we could go for a coffee or something" she replied she will need to see as she is really busy with work. I replied - OK cool let me know if you are free.

I know i am never going to hear back from this girl. The problem with texting is its too easy to blow people off.

Can anybody give me some tips on some solid Text stuctures as to avoid the blow outs?

ok text game rules mr

1. Never end any text message on a question... just dont do it... it means u will sit waiting for a reply (UNLES ITS NEEDED FOR RULE 2)

U need to create some form of role play between u both, like a pretend marriage, or u have kids etc... so u can text somethin like HEY U, Im jUst pickin the kids up etc... or that your her boss in work ANYTHIN it spices up the texts so she WANTS TO REPLY

3. once you text FORGET ABOUT IT, do not wait for a text. If she doesnt text back, she is probly busy... it takes alot to offend sum1 by text, people do not go off u after a text, THEY HAVE LIVES so dont keep readon over checkin ur text, and dont ever text sayin HAVE I UPSET U or anythin like that, as far as ur concerned SHE LOVES U

4. Once you feel the texts are in good flow STOP BEFORE IT GOES COLD... so if u have shared like 4 or 5 funny ones... just stop... and continue it later, give her a few hours of WAITING for that next fun text... she will be doing the RE READING OF TEXTS and thinking about u....(GIRLS LEARN TO LIKE U WHILST THEY ARE AWAY THINKING ABOUT U... TEXTS ARE SO POWERFUL)

DONT ORGANISE MEETINGS VIA TEXT, if she wants to meet u she will mention it... what u do is wait untill ur on a high, and say... look im a little busy ill call you later and ill maybe arange we meet up at some point this week... then dont call untill maybe next day and say HI, u ok ... and arrange... TEXTS HAVE TO BE WORTH REPLYIN 2

So basically when ur on pick up u need to pick a quirky point out of the convo an say somethin about that... not HI ITS BLAH DID U HAVE A GOOD NIGHT

needs to be, Hey, i dont know about u but i was a little drunk... i hope i didnt have my beer goggles on.

just somethin without a question or expectation of a reply...

Wow thanks for such a quick reply Phil. I have been looking through the forums today and I am noticing you have some very good material. The time your putting into this forum is much appreciated buddy. Thanks for the above. Im going to give it a good read through because its something that has been really bugging me.

The above has made me realise alot about the art of texting. Anyone got any advice on how to pick it up again? I asume that I am going to have to wait a couple of days to resume conversation.

I realise that I killed the convo me saying 'ok let me know if your free' text. The ball is now in her court and its free for her to ignore.

How do I reignite the situation?

I had over NEG'ed her a couple of days ago and when I 1st asked her if we could hook up she said that it depends if I was still going to be 'Twat' I said I would try and not be. She asked promise? I replied Promise. It was the day after that, I asked when she was free and the convo ran dry.

yeah... u need to leave it a while... id say something like...

look ive just got out of TWAT rehab an baby, i think im all cured...they told me i need a mentor to keep me on track, and your the only woman for the job i only hope this time you can forgive me and i promise to be good to you until the day i die x

then when she texts u back... u dont gotta text her for a while.

She seems to me like she doesnt get neggy humour tho which is difficult, setting up a roll play may be hard maybe

but with that at least you now make her your MENTOR u can say things like.. i can feel myself slipping, i saw jedward on the tv earlier and i wanted to kill sum1....

just play, u gotta be willing to be outlandish an play around and also willing to loose them. if u fuck up with a girl u will suceed with 10 however playin cautious means u will only ever be middle of the road with them all

Im defo going to give something like this a try. Just one question. Using words like baby in the opening phase of the pick up make me feel like I am being a bit creepy.

Is it a form of 'cock funny' or just natural confidence?

Willing to loose them is a very valid point. I always need to remind myself how many girls there are on this planet and how much fun there is to be had by speaking to them all.

LAW OF ABUNDACE

If you act with them like there aer more on the cards they wont walk away.

To be honest callin them baby is creepy, but when its said in part with a joke, its different... its like playin rll play that u are married, within 10 mins it fine to say I LOVE YOU where that would be weird... coz its situational... if you go HEY BABY CAN I GET UR NUMBER, thats weird, If your sayin, i just got out of twat rehab an BABY ur the one for me, it makes no odds

but to be fair, if you dont feel comfortable sayin it, dont, coz then if she dont text back u will think its coz of that word an it will do ur head in.

Just say it without baby, then once u send the text WRITE IT OFF... if she texts GOOD if not SO..

move on

Thanks buddy - Ill report back to this thread in a couple of days with the outcome.

Practice makes perfect and there is so much practicing to be done.

Phil has some awesome info in his replies. Sounds like hes had some good text game to play with!!

I would say something like this

"Hey, am feeling slightly less twattish today so thought I'd text you and try and be nice. No promise's though, It's all about the baby steps. You best appriciate such a thoughtful text (insert wink)"

Anyways, when you do feel the time is for a meet...Say it in a way where your not asking her. But saying it in a way like you have to meet, that it would be stupid not to yenno? Something like:

"Hey, have you been to (insert awesome place that you may or may have not been to yet)? We should check it out. Whats your week look like?"

Your not saying "Would you like to go" or "Do you fancy hanging out"? Your telling her there is a place you want to check out and she should come along.

Just my two cents...

nah i think pushin for a meet takes away from the idea... the text is u not bein assed wether she texts back... if u text her after a few days and in the text ask for a date... it seems like the text is catered around gettin the date... u better playin patient... ive waited weeks to take girls out, just get a cool text... get her replyin then hit her with a date propsal when ur on a high... at the min u got shit