is it too late??

[Eduard]

Hi, just need some advice of more experienced artists Warning: This might be a long read.
I think that I should start by saying that I have been with same girl for last 14 years. I am still with her, but I am ready for some spice in life.
To the story:
I have been working with this girl, lets call her K, for a few years. K had a boyfriend,but they have split up few months ago. I have not been interested in K while she was with someone else and I dont think she was interested in me. K has started playing games with me after she left her ex. You know it little touches,winks smiles and most importantly sex talks. Not just any sex talks,but wildest dreams talks. It is important to say that K knows about my gf and kids. She went back home for a week recently and we have swapped many many messages on fb. We were closer than ever when she came back. Day before yesterday after a night shift I have dropped her off from work and she invited me for a coffe. I have managed to kiss her and she seemed very happy about us kissing. I have tried to progress there and then, but it was " I need a shower" response. I said OK and we said bye. I went home hoping for some sleep (didn't get any btw). I have somehow foud an excuse to get out of house that afternoon so I went to see her, thinking - I'll score she had a shower. This is when it all goes south. She said that she was thinking about it and she thinks that it would be a mistake to start anything. For some reason I have been very open to her and I have told her that I am not looking for anything serious just sex. I believe that was a mistake.
I did go to see her today. She semed fine, but she would not kiss me no matter what.
What would you guys do? Just don't preach about loyalty please. I realy do want to smash her.

[kowalski]

Could have showered with her.
Why wouldn't she kiss you?


Peace,

kowalski

[Eduard]

She wouldn't kiss me again, because she has been thinking about me being in relationship with another girl. She said that,she doesn't want any trouble, that she needs to recover from bad relationship, that she needs to have calm life..... She is trying to keep her distance since then - ignoring my texts, avoiding eye contact and so on. What do you think? What happened?

[Dannyboy]

Women love it when a guy chases (validation) and starts to feel less confidence when it stops. Its this push pull that will likely get you the girl (if at all). Problem here is she already knows you like her, even willing to risk what you have to 'smash her.'

If I was you, I would laugh everything off that has happened with her and start being unpredictable again like at the beginning. Have fun, smile, joke with her, find out about her life etc etc etc. Being around you needs to be playful, not troublesome.
Then when the time is right and you get your chance, escalate from a kiss to the rest.
You'll only have one chance.

[Dannyboy]

Hahah this made me laugh a lot

[jezzpower]

Being logical with a girl is a real buzz kill. You told her you are only looking for sex, even the whoriest of whorey girls might even not fuck you after that one. FOcus on emotions not logical explaining of shit.