Cutting through the miscommunication on this shit, it comes back to real basic shit. Flakes on dates happen now and then, but the only way you make them happen generally is either by being drab as fuck or too full on. Have some fun with it and remember shit ain't a big deal and it'll be fine. Prioritise getting laid over having fun and make a big deal out of getting a drink and girls might not show up. I've flaked girls for that exact shit myself.

The same thing goes for approaching. This is the shit Phil's saying. If you straight up approach a bird direct when she's with a group of friends it's a bit thirsty. If you just start chatting people in general, is sometimes dudes for a laugh you're more likely to make shit work out