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Joe_Kerswilde · **Ok so here I am -** 08-03-2016, 02:46 PM

Hello there guys (And girls?) New user to the forums here and I think it's safe to say you all probably already know why I'm here. I'll spare you all the inane details but suffice to say I'm here because I have problems approaching, getting to know, getting into relationships and just general issues with women.

I couldn't pull in a lever factory and while in the earlier years this didn't bother me much it's really beginning to bother me know. I've been single fifteen years and the last kind of interaction I had with a woman was in 2012 (There was a little bit in 2013 but nothing I consider worth mentioning) which ended badly for me.

I don't consider myself an unattractive guy but I just have zero luck with women and truth be told I got sick years ago of seeing guys who are considerably "Less" Than me getting girls while I struggle to even talk to one.

I understand that that might sound kind of egotistical but I'm really not it's just the best way I can describe it. Anyway consider me a completely blank slate and I'm looking for help.

I suppose there are a few problems before I even set foot out the door but hopefully I can just discuss those as and when I need to.

Anyway, be kind guys I'm just here to learn and hopefully improve my situation.

Nice one.

JK

astroboy · 16-03-2016, 09:32 PM

Welcome to the world of self improvement. And good on you for taking your first step.

This can be an exciting yet challenging journey. So try to always remember to enjoy the process as it goes. Because eventually when you reach your goals you might realize it might not have been the goals itself, but what the lack of having them realized made you feel and filling that void.

Cheers!

Joe_Kerswilde · 19-03-2016, 01:41 PM

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Originally Posted by astroboy

Welcome to the world of self improvement. And good on you for taking your first step.

This can be an exciting yet challenging journey. So try to always remember to enjoy the process as it goes. Because eventually when you reach your goals you might realize it might not have been the goals itself, but what the lack of having them realized made you feel and filling that void.

Cheers!

Thank you! I have zero ideas on how to start because I don't really go out to meet anyone/girls and online dating hasn't really led anywhere either. Any input or advice would be highly appreciated!

Joe_Kerswilde · 20-03-2016, 02:43 PM

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Originally Posted by Jaz

Sound's like your engine has completely rusted up.

I always say to guys, you must ALWAYS be banging something. Even some monster on the side, you need to keep the scent of despreation of you as girls can smell it like a blood hound. Nothing drys up a fanny faster than a dude who hasnt been laid in years. There is some magical reason why you get more attention after you've just been laid (confident, relaxed, pheromones? - I duno)

My humble advice, start easy. Get to a club, preferably with pals (or fuck it go alone if you have to) Have some drinks, then grab yourself the easiest looking slut you can see. I don't give a shit if she's a 2 the size of whale. Do it! Break the seal. Once you've bust that nut, the only way is up from there. The old ladder princible is rock solid. From there, we can talk further.

I get what you're saying and I'm not knocking your advice whatsoever because I came here to learn but I just can't fuck anything I don't find attractive. Maybe there's a cute looking slut sure but if I'm not attracted to a woman Nothing is gonna happen. I doubt I'd even be able to look at her. I really wanna say more but I don't wanna explain everything right away.

P.S. Loving the avatar.

Joe_Kerswilde · 21-03-2016, 10:57 AM

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Originally Posted by Jaz

My point was, not bang a fatty, it's go get laid. It will make this whole process so much easier.

The truth is, this whole thing is total piece of piss. But I've seen so many guys make this whole getting girls thing a a huge challeng. These dudes go out 5 nights a week sargin and for years they get fuck all.

I guess what I'm trying to really say is, it's all in your head. It's no big deal. If you feel confident and capable enough just go straight out the gate and hit em up.

I get ya. A big problem of mine is confidence and self esteem though. It always has been and I've tried a lot to help/change but nothing ever really does. It's odd though because in other areas of my life I feel unstoppable just not with women.

Joe_Kerswilde · 22-03-2016, 11:45 AM

I wouldn't say I'm scruffy and I'm not overweight. I'm not as active as I used to be because of health reasons. I've been told I'm kind of intimidating because of my height/built but I don't go around bullying people or anything.