The bottom line is your cheating on & making a fool out of your wife. That's pretty shitty.

The best way to handle it is stick with one women and get rid of the other. How long is this going to go on for, how long is it going to last? Presume from your comments your mistress is also cheating on her partner - so your both ass holes doing shitty things to other people.

With putting the Morality aside for just a second.

You're not going to be able to keep them both, at some point this is going to end badly for you.

The best thing for YOU and for them, is that you pick one and stick with it.

The problem is you're both in monogamous marriages, Leave your mistress and stay loyal to your wife.

Be realistic.

He's not going to tell her the truth, that would cause him to lose them both.

I'm offering advice based on what's best for him, you need to put the morality aside for a second.

I don't disagree that what he's done was a stupid decision to have made in the first place.
However he can't have them both, He needs to pick one and stick with it.

I'd vote to ditch the mistress and start being a loyal husband.
But he can do whatever he wants at the end of the day.

Run the cube on her.

Oh then grow some balls and tell your wife who you really are.

I want to help, This is my input:

One word "THREESOME"

The classic resource for this is Steve P's white tiger tantra. That's the technique used in the book the game.

What I don't understand is

"advice on how to keep our wish list"

basically enjoy the sex while it lasts. Because when your wife finds out, she will bend you over and fuck your arse harder than you ever fucked your mistress. I'm hoping that your wife takes your home and half of all your money. Not because of

morality grounds

but because I have a dark sense of humour and I think it will be funny. Also I want your mistress' boyfriend to kick your teeth in. LOL

I hope my advice is helpful.

I also think you are a retarded cunt

funny thread
as a guy you know where the line is depending on your values/any agreed relationship parameters
be ambiguous all you like but you know when you crossed and you can't ever go back
commitment/intimacy you trade for sexual promiscuity potential

I'm not trying to be judgemental here. As personally I'm a believer in open polyamorous relationships and don't really believe the monogomous track.

But are you actually interested in this mistress? (Given you mention "expressing lack of interes"t) Or do you want to keep her around for your convenience?

If so I would think the best "game" is when you're not using people only for your own ends only (Ie. Wife, Mistress). Where it's a win win situation where you are open you present value to them and they give you value. If not, cut them loose and because it's an unhealthy situation for both parties. As it comes from a wrong place of neediness.