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Default Day Game - Cold Approach - 30-06-2015, 06:39 PM

Surely the ultimate aim is not to be a 'day' or 'night' person but to take action whenever if appropriate?

K's thread recently referenced warm v cold approach -I inferred as reading signals.
Stein a while back mentioned 'day' being part of you, not an activity you set out to do!

My goal is to be able to take action if appropriate in a gallery/coffee shop/bookshop/street whatever, increasing my chances to meet women.

Surely though if you are looking for signals, this means there are going to be less opportunities than if you are' ice cold' approaching, but with greater likelihood of success?

Have I missed something?

I need to get better at making eye contact/flirting generally.
I'm not convinced that doing endless street approaches is the smart approach
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Default 01-07-2015, 10:24 AM

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It's that your relationship, your interaction, your conversation has already begun. You are already exchanging language. Not the subconscious kind that supposedly can be unriddled and is unknown to the communicator. The conscious kind that tells itself clearly and where the other is as aware as you are of what you are each communicating.
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Default 05-07-2015, 03:52 PM

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It's that your relationship, your interaction, your conversation has already begun. You are already exchanging language. Not the subconscious kind that supposedly can be unriddled and is unknown to the communicator. The conscious kind that tells itself clearly and where the other is as aware as you are of what you are each communicating.
I don't quite follow, but think this is a subject a few of us are interested in and is worth fleshing out a bit.

Personally, I find some day game threads a bit odd. Something about going out with the intention of chatting up girls, I don't know, it never worked for me. It just made me all anxious and fucked up my confidence.

I found it much better to just have fun with people I bumped into during the day when I could just feel something was there vibe wise. I know maybe that's a confusing distinction but to me it's a key one.

Am I making any sense?


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Default 07-07-2015, 10:10 AM

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What would you think I meant if I wasn't available to question?
Well I'm not sure, it sounded a little cryptic!

This may be a projection but if I were to guess I think you are making the point that there is no such thing as cold approach. That we all feel who we are are drawn to and who reciprocates just as long as we stop putting contrivances like fear or goals in between us and them.


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Default 08-07-2015, 09:13 AM

Yes, so basically: cold approach exists but = bad. Agreed.


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Default 08-07-2015, 10:48 AM

FFS!! - so I posted originally to try to get this, I don't mind admitting I might still be missing a piece, but I will have a go at what I think I know rather than just asking questions!
I originally thought K was commenting on the video being fake, so I was way off.
What I think now is.....
Signals - don't look for them you might not read them, they will hinder not help
Cold is truly cold when you feel no 'intuition'
Endless blocks of wandering the streets doing 'day' is not efficient
The 'intuition' comes from - being in the moment, losing fear (generally but especially of approaching) and being vulnerable( expressing true intentions), and crucially experience

To see if I'm anywhere close the advice I would now give would be...

complete newbie - daygame can be good to get over your AA , but it won't improve you as a person ( character comes in the stream of life not doing street approach)

average (me) - meeting women(people) in the course of your natural day is normal, you will be more efficient if you can be in the moment, approach when you feel attraction (intuition)
To tap into your intuition - be in the moment more, focus on other things, trust your instincts, take action (trial and error)
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Default 12-07-2015, 02:13 PM

Unless I have misread what everyone is saying, I think everyone is getting nit-picky. Cold approach is approaching girls who you do not know or have no had any interaction with before. This most certainly gets you laid if you can do it, and put the effort in.

Checking for girls being receptive does not void it of being 'cold', if you make eye contact with a girl it doesn't stop it being a cold approach. It only starts being a 'warm' (lol) approach if she is looking at you first and checking you out. If you initiate eye contact then it is still a cold approach.

One thing about cold approach: its ratio isn't pretty. Whether that is a ratio of lay per girl approached, lay per time spent on all those nights out and texting and dates, lay per effort or even per money spent. Unless you become very good.


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Default 13-07-2015, 10:07 AM

Psychographics?
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Default 13-07-2015, 01:07 PM

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Hmmm, lets see...

What about when you are on public transport and someone is being odd as fuck, talking super loud about their genital warts on speaker phone maybe or white dude with headphones on singing a song with multiple uses of the word nigger in it, then you look at the dude and look at the other train people and an other train person looks back at you and you have started to interact: a W-T-F-look, a Fuck-knows-look, a pretend-to-be-bit-creeped-look, a laugh, etc., etc.

There's no intuition here, neither party is having to intuit anything it's as clear as formal speech. And there are no signals, neither party is transmitting something without realising nor having to read into what the other is transmitting. You are having a conversation, a relationship has already begun between you both and you are exchanging big chunks of information with each other comfortably, willingly, intentionally and with explicit clarity (i.e. without need for interpretation or intuition).


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Well in your example the dude would be communicating attitude, lifestyle, behaviour info etc
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Default 06-08-2015, 10:35 AM

I thought this was worth a read.

No More Cold Approaching – Do This Instead
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