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Id like to be in the position where, when i text she replies straight away
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You can't control other people and trying to will stress you out. Ironically, giving up control is the only way to gain some measure of control.
This one you can work on, it's a skill imho. Practice with everyone. Find material on how to do it but don't stick doggedly to it you don't want to sound like a robot.
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and that shell text me, shell initiate conversation,
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Sometimes she will, sometimes she won't. Let go of the need for her to do everything.
Incidentally, you want her to do everything so that you dont have to feel insecure, ever. That's a mistake. Instead, accept feeling insecure and lead anyway. That's how you slowly rewire the insecurities and the need to know what or how to say will melt away with them.
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atm convos gone dead, which leads me to also asking how to re initiate it?
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Lead. Enjoy yourself. Work on yourself. Be funny. Be cheeky. Talk to her like a mate you've known for years.
It's not just about what to say, it's about your whole life. See?