Hey fellas, I'm new to this forum so not quite sure where to post.

The past 6-8 weeks or so a new girl started working on my shift (I work at a warehouse). We've been working on and off with each other, but we see each other every day and I talk to her every day. I must mention she only has two more weeks to work before going of to study.

We talk and joke a lot, we've also done some kino every now and then, and intense eye contact. Like my title states, she has a boyfriend.

Anyway, two days ago our company hosted a Christmas party where we both attended. She asked me where I would be on the pre-party, and asked if she could come (even though she didn't know any other people there). I obviously fixed her an invite.

Once at the actual party, many seats were taken so we were sat next to one another, so we spent time eating and talking a lot. We also went out to smoke a looot! (even though I'm not a smoker, I smoke socially, and I find it to be great at socializing).

The night went on, with some small kino, and later that night they moved all the tables and made room for a dance-floor, and we danced "Bugg" quite a lot. I made it clear and showed her I wanted to hold her close, then I pushed her away and made her walk back to me a couple of times.

This is where it gets interesting, after the dance, we went out for a final smoke of the evening. I told her what I found quite sexy with smoking, she asked "what's that?". I filled my mouth with smoke, walked up real close to her face-to-face, and blew smoke in her face very slowly, then "leaned" in further, not very far from her mouth where she said:
"I want to, but I can't; I have a boyfriend".
I then replied with the "goldfish-routine" (if it's even a routine).

Should I have played it differently? If so, how should I have done it?


We then walked in, and sat down in the lounge. She was sat in my knee, where I worked my hand inside the back of her shirt, caressed her gently. She took off a short while after that (she had to work the morning after).

We now keep a conversation going via text (facebook-messenger) where she also added me as a friend. (Does that really matter btw, who adds whom on facebook? Just a thought


Appreciate your time!

Jesus, what is it with these people trying to fuck other people's girlfriends? Aside from whatever you think morally it's just such a scarce was to behave. There's plenty of girls without boyfriends you can spend your time hitting up, stop this thirstyness.

Do you guys mind explaining yourselves? Or do you only curse instead of leaving positive/negative feedback in the UK?

Stop messing around with women who have boyfriends.

Find women who are single.

Good job on the small kino, next time get it up to big kino.

There's not been that much swearing. There's been a lot of negative feedback though, and it's pretty evident why. What needs more explaining?

Get your own girlfriend instead of trying to take someone else's, theirs enough to go around

Well, it all depends really @Chris.

What kind of man do you want to be?

Do you want to be some needy little worm who hit's on other people's girlfriends, or do you want to be a grown man who chooses not to get involved with people's girlfriends because it is dishonourable? It's up to you.

By the way, if you want a forum where everyone buys your frame then you are in the wrong place.

So you're basing my whole personality by this one post? Do you honestly think I'm the first human being to post anything like this? Who says I'm not balling with multiple women simultaneously, but this one I need help with? I was looking for advice, not your opinions. If I wanted to get opinions, I'd go ask my grandmother.

If you were balling one measly girl wouldn't matter.

If you really can't live your life without her then just do as your doing, keep putting her under those situations. Maybe she'll have some sort of argument with her boyfriend and there'll you'll be ready to pounce like a dormant herpes simplex type 2.