Well, some of you may remember me, I entered into this community with much vigour after spending 10 months getting over the collapse of my marriage.

Pickup skills were okay but I accepted that there was work to be done and I liked the game objective of leaving a woman in a better state then when you met them.

Anyway, I had some success and a couple of F closes but found myself yet again in a relationship. Obviously she fell for me for who I am, but the skills I had learned along my short pickup journey made the process a lot slicker, elscalating kino, talking about whats dear and close to her rather then bigging myself up instead etc. During this relationship I also realised (and kind of knew before) that I was dating a female equivilant of a PUA, boy can she game and the things I have learned or beliefs I have had confirmed have been a coup.

1. Affirmations - Finding whats close to them, is it a child, their career objectives, family, maybe even a previous difficult relationship breakup that they pulled through. There are so many things that you can pick up on to question, probe, and actually get enjoyment of finding out about. Look for her inner deep qualities surrounding the information she gives you e.g. does it mean she is strong, does she have strong family values, does it mean she is honest etc. Find the quality and build some affirmations around it, it shows you are really paying an interest and saying what you see. It builds rapport, helps get you laid and if you want a relationship, certainly helps her to fall for you.

2. Physical "Push pull" - If the relationship is at a level where you spend a lot of time together, dont take it for granted if you are tactile with her and notice that at times she isn't then switch it off, don't be arsey but take your arm away from her shoulder or hand off her thigh, whatever it is you're doing, stop it and sit back. Engage her in convo so she doesn't think that you've gone cold and then watch her move in closer for affection and get tactile with you. The affect is almost instant.

3. The texting game - Are you always the first one to text? Do you answer every text she sends straight away? if so sit back a little. Its hard but leave it for a few hours and then respond, it shows that you are not totally dependent on her.

4. Feelings - A hot potatoe this one but we do have them, whether it's the feeling that we dont want her or that we do, speak about your feelings, get it off your chest, don't clam up and go quiet as it only leads to resentment because you cant express yourself, talking stuff out cuts down on the argument factor as well.

I'm gonna leave it at that for you to absorb for now as this is getting seriously long. It might be common sense to some of you but for others I hope I've helped, this is what this community is all about.

I would also like to point out that this isn't about creating a women who craves for you or is dependant on you, it's about improving the dynamics of your relationships or game and ultimatley not having to "test" things out and totally fucking up your relationship with someone who you actually quite liked (like I did) because you're to busy experimenting to see how far you can push things.

I'm going to write some more notes about this for my own development and I plan to publish maybe in the the form of a facebook group or a blog If you're interested or want to share your views then post here or drop me a pm

Apologies for the long post!

Amen!!