Women invite; men ask. I mean, a woman invited you and a man has to recognise that and then ask. She is there saying, in her subtle way, 'Here I am, I'm up for it.....if I like you, of course', Our job is to read the subtle and secretive signals she is providing, and, assuming she is our type, then we approach and let her know we are interested. She then either let#s us know we are her type or not. We have to read her subtle and polite signals about whether she likes us and accept it if she is not interested.....and leave her feeling ok about the rejection she has had to make.

I prefer this than trying to get a woman who is not saying she is up for it with me because it is too hard work and the odds are that I will not be her type or that she is not up for it for other reasons.

Ideally I want a woman who knows she is interested in me before I start. For this she has to know what she is about, that she is up for a liason, and also that she likes me, so I have to give her some chance to decide whether she wants me.....a few seconds at the very least, but a few minutes is better, before I pop the question....ie would you like to meet up sometime.

So what are the subtle and secretive signs? It is too big a subject to say exactly. But i think it help to get into the mind of such a woman. She; up for sex but how can she say that? She can't just stand there with a board saying I'm up for it. She doesn't want a reputation, unless she is on travellers road, when she is not bothered. So she certainly needs to feel that you understand this and can be discreet and keep a secret, that you are not the type to blab and brag because it is the only thing you have to talk about.

So, what would it mean if a woman sat on a bench outside an old folks home? It might mean that she was just sitting down, or it might mean that she is there hoping that an elderly gent will see her and fancy her and maybe want to get to know her better. If she was there only once then maybe she was just sat there, but if she is there day-after-day then maybe there is something more to it.

The above is a secret and subtle sign, it can be. A woman smiles at you? Is she just being friendly, or is it more than that? A woman has some sexy jeans on and sat so that you are able to get an eyeful and she is looking in a direction away from you so that you can get a good eyeful without having to avoid her noticing you doing that. Is she just sat there or is there more to it? These are some of the signs we have to weigh up.

The more you can weigh it up then the better it is going to be for you. It is a problem at first because you can't weigh it up at first, assuming you are progressed enough to see it in the first place, and so the resultant dithering because of your uncertainty, and the possible calamity of having read it all wrong, is a tough place to start from, This is what makes it so difficult for a beginner and so easy for someone well-practiced.

This is just one aspect of the subject, but I think it is a good idea to place yourself in the place of a woman and see the whole thing from her options and concerns. It is best to be a man I think because at least it is conventional#accepted to approach a woman, so you don't need to bother with woman you don't fancy. The downside is that you have to be brave and skilled. For a woman, she can't approach so easily as it is not so conventional/accepted. She has to wait there and be approached BY ANYONE (unlike us blokes who can choose who we are interested in). So she wants to attract but not the wrong type. She uses subtle signs that she can to improve her chances of attracting the attention of who she wants and who she doesn't want. She has to communicate this. She may be hard and cold with you but it is only that she want you to go away out of it as you are not her type. You have to accept this as part of it, some you want you will never have. But as a beginner it is hard because you know that your pitvh wasn't up to the mark and you take it as it being that, which it might be but not necessarily so, for even if your pitch is perfect she may not want you vor whatever reason. This is how iy is. As even if it was, at least partly, because your pitch wasn't upo to scratch then you should just put that behiond you and use it to improve and go on to improve your pitch. It is tough, sure, gut that is how it is. look on it as a great challenge to get stuck into and master, so that it is fun/ an interest.
She has to put off the men she doesn't want, and you may be one of them, but she can't be expected to like every man. So for her the bane of her life when she is 'out hoping' is that she has to get rid of attention she attracts but doesn't want. She can't muck about in this, so she develops a short hand way of letting you know she's not interested, and this has to be hard sometimes so that the message gets home, she knows this from experience that she has to get the message home quickly. We have to accept this. We don't usually have that problem of unwanted attention as we only need bother with those we know we want.

Knowing this, the differences for the man and for the woman, we can place ourselves in her shoes, and this improves our game very much as it helps us be more sure of what is on her mind or not.