Hi Guys ,

As i posted in my latest field report i have been seeing 2 girls over the past few months (we'll call them "girl M" & "girl S") which has suited me really well as they are both very different types of women, and i get different things from both of them and we connect on different levels. I have told them both i am leaving to go backpacking in November and don't want anything serious , they are both fine with that.

This has been great for a few months. I have recently started dating another (We'll call her "girl C"), who's really cool, and again different from the other two. Stupidly girl M & girl C live reasonably close to each other & myself. When I was out with Girl C last night, Girl M found out, how i don't know. I have managed to get out of it, but don't wanna make this mistake again.

So the reason I'm posting is to ask for your opinions & advise , I know i shouldn't shit where i eat so what are my best ways to keep all these relationships open, is it even possible? Is it best to be open with them and tell them that i am dating other women or best to just keep my gob shut and make sure I'm cleaver & don't get found out? Have any of you had any similar experiences?

As always all opinions/advise welcome.

GoodRebel

Do these girls all think your exclusive with them or do they know your dating other girls?

I've always found being honest from the start is the easiest way. Girls will always want to fuck an attractive man, make it clear what it is you want and the circumstances under which you want it. Some will go for it, some won't but you'l have the peace of mind that your being honest with your intentions and anyone who gets involved with you knows exactly what there getting in to.

Worrying about things like if chick A will find out about chick B takes up way too much mental energy and time than it's worth. You also have the side effect of feeling like a shitty human being when your not being honest with multiple people.

Sound advice that , cheers dude.

I have told them all I'm not looking for a relationship/commitment etc , but have never mentioned dating other girls to them, is that something you'd reckon is worth saying?

GoodRebel

Yes, re-read what Phenom just said. Tell them you are seeing other women and let her know if shes not cool with it, fair enough, but thats what your looking for just now.

By not being exclusive and seeing other women, technically your not doing anything wrong - but your still lying to them.

By not telling them your still going to be in that place where Phenom said - worrying that one girl will find out about the other. Or a repeat scenario whereby they do find out as what happpened to you, the drama and stress that brings you isn't worth it.

How would you feel if you fouind out that one (or both of these chicks) were banging multiple other guys without your knowledge? Now true, maybe that doesn't bother you, but wouldnt it have been better if they told you? Its a morals/principle of the thing.

Broadsword nailed it.

Spot on there pal, its hard to see things clearly sometimes when you're in the middle of things, but this advise defiantly helps, so cheers guys, nice one!! I realise its a good position to be in and i suppose it shows how far i have come in the last 18 months or so.

GoodRebel

GoodRebel, get your ass out to the club with me sometime this decade.

Dude!!! You're right , it's been too long! Are you still up in mcr? I'll text you later.

GoodRebel

Hi guys!

Thanks again for the advice, I told "girl M" the other day that I'd been seeing someone else, but want to carry on seeing her etc. I felt loads better for saying it, but didn't realistically think I'd be seeing her again .... Then the weird thing happened , she messages me yesterday asking if I have plans this weekend because she "hasn't seen me in a while" and wants to go out for a few drinks. Seems crazy that! I wonder why that is, a bit of jealousy maybe?

GoodRebel