I came to a stark realisation over Easter, which also coincided with getting back with my girlfriend again. All of the people I’ve been hanging out with the past 6 months or so have increasingly become people I only do game with, or only talk about game with. So, I asked myself a few questions upon realising this polarising world in which I was becoming embroiled in:

Is this the social life I want?
Is this the life I want to live?
Is this a healthy lifestyle?

The answer was obvious, and the more I see others involved in this scene, the more I see that this is a lifestyle for them as they hang out on street corners for hours at a time in large groups every day. I was always excited by day game in particular, and looking back I chatted up girls on trains and at bus stops even before I knew what it was. I just never had to balls to make anything of it before (i.e. fuck them), so getting a handle on feeling worthy about making a move on a girl has been awesome.

But what else would there be left for me to do in the world of PUA? I could keep theorising, and work on dare I say it ‘PICKUP MASTERY’… I read this term yesterday on a Facebook group. WTF is that? All I ever wanted was to just bang some hot girls and work on myself. I will continue to do that, girlfriend or no girlfriend, but I really have no appetite to have this as an identity.

The biggest problem I see with the people I have met in the ‘community’, is people hang around in large groups for hours and days at a time as an excuse for action. Whereas the real action to be taken, is much more spontaneous and subtle, and chatting up that girl you see in passing at the bus stop. It shouldn’t be taking hours and days out of your life, and it shouldn’t take over your social life.

So, for me, over the past few weeks, I've been reconnecting with people who share my REAL interests in life. Music & art, and spending my spare time sharing these experiences, is where it's at. These are the things I can share with everyone, and not hide as part of a secret world, or secret society.

This is one of the best posts I've read on here for a while.
It's quite topical too with some of the threads here recently.

Some people on this forum (me included) should reflect on these issues.
I know I need to spend more time following my passions and trying new experiences.