So went on a good first date last week with a girl, arranged to meet again tonight. Both looking forward to it middle of this week but no response since weds night and no response to confirmation text this afternoon (sat).

Now I'm wondering what you guys would do in this situation...do you

A. Call to check if all is ok, confirm that way
B. Text to say that I now have alternative plans, no worries etc
C. Ignore

I also work at the same place as this person. This didnt seem an issue up to this point. Lots of cheeky / flirtatious texting building up to this supposed meet up tonight

Basically I don't want to appear needy, but want to give it a fair chance as she's cool and as far as I have read the situation we were both digging eachother

Genuinely interested in your thoughts guys

Well, in the end, I ignored the lack of response and went out with some friends

Number closed an absolute 10, had her eating out of the palm of my hand, all whilst the guy who took her out on a date a few nights previous looked on.

Some guys make it so easy for you to do this it's hilarious. It's what happens when a weak person comes up against someone truly confident and knows how to be genuinely attractive

I'll post a field report asap

...righto mate.

Giving you the benefit of doubt.

But, what's with this HB10 stuff.
Personally I don't rate like that, I think its unneeded.


But how do you class a girl you just met a 10. Is this purely just on looks?

A big problem you have in 'dating' is that most girls are already half way down the line with some other guy.

so unless u pick up some prime window of opportunity... girls are usually still dating, waiting for the guy they have been seeing a while to make it official.

So sometimes, they get an offer... which may not actually be a better offer...

but it culls their insecurity over this other guy... so u get ditched.

U cant win everything... u just cant.

id never take dating outcomes seriously .. not ever

sometimes its just the timing.

This resonates with how I used to be, a lot of the time I was the 1 getting ditched and I was thinking and blaming myself for it, when in reality the girls I was getting ditched by were simply waiting for their fuck buddy to commit. 1 girl in particular during college I should have seen this unfolding, I actually had a drunk friend I and another mate were carrying home that told me everything about this girl, she was a real mess.
All this was happening through exam season aswell so it messed me right up and many of her friends were on my side, so to speak, like 3 of them phoned me during a night to tell me different shit that went down. Really crazy time and it fucked me up big time.


Now I am much better, not fully a role reversal as I'm not getting frequent sex but I'm definitely working towards it. I cringe at what I was like before. A part of me wants a relationship, the other part can't be arsed with the shit.

Lol a 10.

And Phil is right, fucking annoying!