Hey again guys. My second question...please dont take any of what im about to say in the wrong way, nor for me think im better than anyone eles...This is regarding the 'im the best thing there is' attitude. Saying things to emply your good looking or what ever an example taken from the list of texts (which is really good by the way) 'Aliens are coming to abduct all the good looking sexy ass people! You will be safe, I'm just texting to say goodbye'. Saying things along those lines, if you can understand what im getting at here...making a point of yours looks in a positive/ kinda boastful way....Now no offence again, but i read that this works well for guys who are not as good looking as some. How would this type of thing work for guys who are quite good looking? I am quite a good looking guy, i feel as though im being a vein and big headed and abit stuck up saying somthing like that to a girl...any thoughts guys? and what would be the best attitude for a good looking guy, or am i being stupid and it just doesnt matter? CONFUSED.

I think if you're confident with your looks then you don't need to refer to it in any shape or form, you're looks will just speak for itself. People can identify and recognise when someone is considered 'good looking'. If you are good looking by making comments such as the example you gave can come across like you are fishing for validation based solely on your looks and turn some people off.

For example a rich man who is confident and content within himself does not need to brag about his wealth to others for validation, people will pick-up on this for themselves. A rich man who likes to go around telling people he's rich will often be regarded as less confident and content within himself as he is seeking validation from external sources. The difference essentially being modesty which many women find to be an attractive trait.

The example you gave works best for guys who are not considered conventionally 'good looking' because it shows they have a sense of humour and are not hung-up about the way they look which are also attractive traits.

The best attitude to take if you're a good looking guy would be to not refer to it and certainly don't seek approval for it. At the end of the day to win most women over you're gonna have to offer more than just your looks so don't dwell on it.

Yeee, this is what I thought, but i posted just to make sure i had the right idea....and yes i know its not about looks for woman, which is why i dont have alot of success lol

an interesting topic...

its wierd, because i have one or two good thigns going for me.. but then again one of two not so good....


what i tend to do is, in conversation, once im confortable with the girl, il jokily refer to one or my not-so-goods... ie: hairline! then laugh about it, show her im comfortable and confident... then usually with a bit of luck, they come back with a compliment to me about something else...

worth a try, showing something thtas considereed not as cool about you... providing you put the right spin on it.

Pic.

If I was sending that text I would remove the part about looks. Just sexy works better. Looks are a sensitive issue, even for very pretty girls.

I once told a gorgeous girl I taught her friend was prettier than her. (fuck knows why, this was in the afc days) I figured, being so cute, she would be comfortable with the way she looked. No, she broke done crying and told me I was a complete bastard.

If you are happy with your looks there is no need to worry about, or refer, to them. Or hers. You answered your own question. Looks don't mater in this respect.

Don't even consider how 'good looking' you are or not. It's pretty irrelevant. If you believe you are worthy enough then that's all that matters at the end of the day. If you doubt yourself for something as futile as your looks you will fall by the wayside in her attraction radar.

Also ask yourself this. Do you really want a girl who selects you for the way you look... or would you rather be found attractive for being a cool guy?

Picard - Yeee, i have a bad hairlineaswel ...i might give that a go.

microft - Yeeep i notice the really good looking girls sometimes have more insecurities than not so good loking girls...

Nova, i appriciate you trying to help, but i think you've not understood what i was getting at buddy, I htink youve got a bit carried away lol.. i know looks have nothing to do with nothing, i was asking if i would look like a big headed prick who needs to brag all the time by using things like the example of the text i gave...but that is good points about 'Do you really want a girl who selects you for the way you look'

Thanks anyways guys

For you guys mentioning receeding hair lines. If it's pretty blatant just take the plunge and shave it off. My hair line is receeding and I just keep it very short it looks much better that way. On the other hand my brother who is receeding and thining badly tries desperately to cover it up with unsuccessful styling. It's clear to everyone that you are trying to hangon desperately to those remaining strands.

My brother gets called out all the time that he's going bald and people notice it, whereas with me no one ever mentions it.

LOOOOL omg maybe im just fucked up, thats not what i was trying to ask or get at, i was simply you in a negative way...aka fuck him hes well big headed? or wouldnt you get that respons from a girl and they would just see it as confidance?
This is the answer that i think get what i was getting at from Hustler25 'For example a rich man who is confident and content within himself does not need to brag about his wealth to others for validation, people will pick-up on this for themselves. A rich man who likes to go around telling people he's rich will often be regarded as less confident and content within himself as he is seeking validation from external sources. ' - thats the type of thing i was trying to find out, not wether or not looks 'matter'...Only 'matter' in the way of how you speak about them....I didnt mean to come accross as if i was asking about that, thats why i said dont take it the wrong way? buuuuut anyways alot of questions have been answered even if i didnt intensionaly ask them so its all kool lol