This thread is sparked mainly by a friend of mine who every week for the past four-five months messages me and then moans about how much of a knob his bird is and he wants to leave her, then does nothing. Yesterday he calls me does the same and finishes by telling me they've now moved in together . My response being "From now on we don't ever talk about your bird again got it!!
This is obvious and common we even seem to have guys that are scared to leave girls they are not even with.
So how have you guys got better internally at saying this girls not for me im moving on.Was it simply a case of consciously fucking girls off till it became no problem at all.
Personally if still tend to get that yuck feeling when saying this aint for me. I need to be more concise and as soon as I feel this girls a knob or this aint gona work, get rid there and then. Rather than umming and ahhing about it and making excuses not to be rid.
I still feel I need to be stronger and more certain of what I require and accept and if you don't fit that bang bye bye.

Regretfully I can sympathise here, it's always been one of my failings. I always think about how its going to affect a girl by my ending it and then feeling awful that I'd have inflicted such 'heartbreak' as it were since I've had it in the past. Empathetic or just plain pathetic your pick. Still either way its still not a good reason to perpetuate and just delay the inevitable.

Get over yourself Dice hahahahahh!

As you get older, for some people the fear of being alone outweighs the faults that their partner may have.

If it's not working, you simply have to say so.

Agreed I think cutting the cord early if its not going to work. The less time she/you have to develop feeling towards each other, the less emotional pain on both sides also.
Im trying to think more like its better for her too because shes in a relationship with me and im not into her, when she could be with some other guy who would not think shes a knob and have a happier, better relationship. Rather than a fake relationship with you where you hang on like a dick even tho you don't really want to be with her, just scared to be alone.

Unfortunately too many girls and guys get into relationships because they feel they have to, and even worse because they are scared of being alone or not getting any if they don't stick with their girl.

The formality of relationships does interest me somewhat of late, especially as I keep having girls out on dates who end up telling me they have a boyfriend. Something I am now getting used to is telling girls I'm not in it for anything more than some fun. This has surprised me how well some of the girls accept it. I guess if you make it seem ok, then it will be ok.

Im still not sure how I feel about banging chicks with bfs. As a general rule id prefer single girls, and If they do I don't wanna know about it. It just makes me trust women and the idea of LTRs in general less and less. I think because its happened to me a lot I tend to disdain it more, I 100% wouldn't have a LTR with a girl who had cheated on her bf with me!!

Therefore the more in alignment you and they are the less chance of cheating??
Is that what you are getting at??
Or are you saying because your more in alignment you therefore are willing to leave someone who doesn't fit what you want more readily???

Yeh I guess so, never really thought about it like that.
Still even if a person was in alignment as you describe, I still wouldn't trust them till I felt they had earned it.
Also I wouldn't describe myself as being fully in alignment as you describe yet I would certainly class myself as a trust worthy person?

mmm im struggling with this a bit?
What I was trying to convey was that I have on occasion thought the wrong thing ( I fancied a girl in a not very good mental state, my thoughts constantly told me I could easily take advantage of her but I helped her instead) so my words and actions were sincere in that I wanted to help her and made me help her. Right actions wrong thinking!!!
Surely this cant be in alignment or my thoughts would have matched my words and actions?