Avoiding flakes... Making a connection...

[Halcyon]

So, you can approach a girl confidently, banter with her, get her interested and get her number but she never answers the phone or calls back. Why?

Are girls afraid to pick up your phone calls?


The simple fact is that no matter how attractive, confident and charming you were at the time there still isn’t anything that really connects the two of you. This creates two major problems:

1) Even though she finds you attractive she still doesn’t feel she knows you very well. Therefore she is unsure about meeting you again.

2) She assumes that since you don’t really know her that well the only reason that you must be interested in her is for her looks. Consequently, she assumes that you’re probably just after sex.

Lucky for you this problem can be easily solved and transform your dating life. The solution requires a little bit more effort on your part in getting to know her, and not just on a superficial level but on a deeper level also.

Getting to know someone very well requires talking about more than just the weather. The key is to ask penetrating questions that will allow her to reveal herself to you. For instance:

-What’s the one thing you love to do? What’s your passion in life?

Sometimes women might not open up straight away, and if they don’t then it’s a chance for you to open up first. If you reveal something about yourself then she is sure to follow. As the conversation moves forward you will both share personal things with each other and get to know each other on a deeper level. When she reveals those aspects of her inner self that interest you, you can let her know what it is that you like about her. At this point she will see that you have an interest in her that is deeper than just looks and feel comfortable that you’re not just after sex.

There is a real beauty in building a genuine connection with someone. In fact, really creating an emotional connection with a woman is one of the most amazing feelings there is.

[TheRegulator88]

I had a situation like this before...
I randomly myspaced this hottie as i was bored between treating clients. Got chatting to her on the internet, she such an ace girl,, got some quality banter and genuine connection goin between us too. Was flirting away with her and i had the reigns of the convosation. She was working for my attention now. Asked for her number and BOOM! got it. Rang her....no response.
Week later i gave her some banter on her profile, to which she replies....
"Shhh Will! Give me your number btw, i cant believe i lost it "
Give it her again....text her....no f***ing response again. Was really confused about this tho. Just couldnt figure out why got blanked!??

[Shark]

You're correct Halcyon - to get a girl to return your call/text message she has to feel more than a brief attraction to you - a girl might give her number out 10times in a night and only the guy that really stands out is going to get her attention Monday morning when her mobile keeps going off. To do that you have to spend a bit of time with her and make a real emotional connection. I find the best results is the mini-date when you meet a girl and ake her on to a different bar or club...because you ahve moved locations with her it tricks the brain into thinking she has known you longer than she has/better than she does and if you get a few good emotional connection in too she is much more likely to want to meet you again. Try spending a little more time with teh girl before getting her number until you feel a real connection....yes you won't get to as many girls in that club/that night but you'll have more chance of seeing those ones you do spend time with again.

Keep us posted Brother.